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[pdxmilf]

When creating a journal entry, keep in mind that it's being posted on a public forum and responses from other Cafemom members can be expected. It's good to keep in mind the community guidelines, primarily:

1. Be respectful of others, especially when disagreeing with them.

It’s simple – Be nice to others. This is the most important thing for everyone to remember.

You can be opinionated.  You can say that your opinion is better than someone else's.  You can be opposed to the ideas or opinions of others, and can say so.  But don’t be nasty about it. Mean people are not welcome at this cafe.

2. Debate is great, but it should be done in a constructive way.

Discussion and debate are not only allowed, they are encouraged. But, if a healthy discussion breaks down into an exchange of attacks and insults or becomes too heated, we will take measures to end the discussion.

3. Don’t harass or personally attack others.

When a discussion gets heated or involves a topic you feel passionate about, it’s sometimes tempting to cross the line and stop talking about the issues and instead talk about the people involved. Don’t do it.     ****   No name calling.

**4. If you’re going to post something controversial, be prepared for others to disagree with you and your ideas. ****

Remember that when you post something, especially about a controversial topic, expect that your viewpoints and opinions may be vigorously questioned, challenged, and held up to scrutiny. If having your opinions challenged and being expected to defend your position will make you uncomfortable, please don't post about that topic.

And I'm spent!

 

[krisr169]

Oct. 17, 2007 at 4:07 PM Great reminders!  It really is getting exhausting to try to have any kind of conversation on this forum.  It doesn't seem to matter what you say and in what manner you say it, somebody is going to get upset at ya.  Hence my latest stance, keep it to myself :)  Have a good one!

[pdxmilf]

Oct. 17, 2007 at 4:14 PM Thanks krisr. I don't mind people getting upset with some of my statements, you can't please everyone.  It's the childish reactions that crop up every now and then....none of us should have to deal with it.  Don't many of us deal with that on a day-to-day basis with our own kids? :)

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[sophie_sue24]

Oct. 17, 2007 at 5:45 PM thanks pdxmilf...i had a coward attack me recently...not cool

[pdxmilf]

Oct. 17, 2007 at 7:45 PM

I'm sorry to hear that sophie, I agree, it's not cool. I've got an angry Cafemom member spittin' nails right now because I offered a different perspective to her post. I guess she's not accustomed to being disagreed with.

We all should be able to express ourselves here and it's okay if we don't agree with each other - variety IS the spice of life, no? :)   How boring things would be if we all thought alike - it's unimaginable.

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[justbeverly]

Oct. 18, 2007 at 6:55 PM I agree. I dont mind anyone expressing their opinion as long as they dont get nasty Good post  and good reminder.  Thanks,

[pdxmilf]

Oct. 18, 2007 at 8:57 PM

Beverly, thanks for your positive comment, sounds like we're on the same page for this issue! :)

I mentioned earlier that I had a member upset with me and I'm happy to say that we've gotten through our issue. She's a very bright, strong woman and I hate to think that we may have missed out on learning from each other. 

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