Feeling Overwhelmed

[futurmil2b]

I am currently feeling a little overwhelmed.   I am currently going through financial problems and my marriage is on VERY shaky grounds.  My husband blames me for the financial mess he has us in and I blame him.  I recently found out that he has taken out several loans that he cannot afford.  I have since taking over the bills but things are still not great.  I am glad I found this board.  Hopefully, I can connect with other ladies that can relate to what I am going through and be a support system.   I have no doubt that things will work out one way or the other..but its a little overwhelming right now. 

[Mom2theboy1994]

Oct. 21, 2007 at 12:28 PM I hope you guys can stop blaming each other, (regardless of who is at fault) and come together to work as a team to get yourself back on good financial footing! You shouldn't have to go this alone. The feeling of being overwhelmed is well...overwhelming! I wish you luck!

[Danalee1968]

Oct. 21, 2007 at 12:30 PM MEN! They can never accept the responsibility that they may be the one who messed up. We just got through a major financial struggle ourselves. Two months I was unemployed, and denied benefits. If I had not won my appeal and gotten several checks last week, this week we would be hitting rock bottom. My husband took on another job to help out, but let his temper get the best of him and quit the better one of the two. They cant controle themselves, they are always right and everyone else is wrong. I hope you get through this stressfull time, good luck.

[walkergirlsmom]

Oct. 21, 2007 at 12:38 PM Financial stress is tough. I'm right there with you. I've been with my dh for 10 years (married for 5) and we're still paying loans from before he met me. It does get easier. Talk to your creditiors, they will help with hardship programs. We're on several! And maybe talk to a credit counseling service. It seems like as women we end up taking over the problem while the men pout about it. At least that's how it works in my marriage. Wich is also shaky. Here to listen if you need it, k. Good luck!!

[nicolemorgan]

Dec. 13, 2007 at 8:45 PM

i feel u girl my hubby has put us in a bad situation regarding money so i know it canbe a big cause of sress and anxiety hope you can figure things out

nicole

[nicolemorgan]

Dec. 13, 2007 at 8:45 PM

i feel u girl my hubby has put us in a bad situation regarding money so i know it canbe a big cause of sress and anxiety hope you can figure things out

nicole

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[mrstattedup]

Feb. 19, 2008 at 1:17 AM overwhelmed is the exact word I was looking for! I don't stress over finances..cuz I can't fix them right now..and I don't answer the calls..my relationship is rocky as well but I take it one day at a time..I almost grabbed all my sh*t and my kids cuz my anxiety is acting up really bad..and men just don't understand..yea it sucks!

[futurmil2b]

Apr. 30, 2008 at 6:05 PM

Hello ladies - thanks for responding to my post.  I appreciate all the coments/suggestions/advice.  Since that post...I am doing MUCH better.  Anxeity is not as bad anymore - my husb and I are getting along pretty good for the most part.  It will be a loooonnnnngggg time before I trust him financially.  I am still taking care of paying the bills.  Things are still a little tight - but definitely light at the end of the tunnel.  Thanks again to all that responded.

 

 

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[futurmil2b]

Jun. 22, 2008 at 9:15 PM

Hello ladies -

Since I wrote my first message in October 07 - my marriage has taken a turn for the better.  It's amazing the way things happen to turn things around in your life.  About a week ago, my husb was in the hospital - it really scared me.  He was over his friend's house and his friend called me and told me he had to call the ambulance because my husband passed out.  On my way to the hospital my thought was nothing mattered - not the bills, not our finances - the only thing mattered at that time was my husband getting better.  At that point, I knew what mattered to me the most.   I no longer feel overwhelmed - I feel pretty blessed to still have my husband....regardless of the finances. My husband told me when he was lying in the hospital he just knew that was the end for him....what a scary thought.  

 

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