I hate his attitude.

[DriftJunky]

If there is one thing my son does that I simply can NOT stand it's his attitude when he comes back from his dad's house.

 My son just pushes every button I have. He has this attitude that he doesn't have to do anything I say and his dad's "rules" override mine. But I'm sorry, I don't care what the hell what his dad says when it comes to taking care of him it's MY rules that over ride his. 

 I refuse to just have my son sit in dirty clothes that wreak of some disgusting trash that I can not name. I refuse to have dirt caked on his face. Frankly, who gives a fuck if you gave my son a shower in the morning he OBVIOUSLY needs another one NOW. 

 But no my 3 year old son will kick and scream on the floor throwing his temper tantrum. Yelling he needs to keep those god awful dirty ugly clothes on and doesn't need another shower because his dad says so. 

 So what happens today?! My son throws a temper tantrum and hangs on the hose hanging from our shower head. What happens after that?!?! He broke the water pipe IN the WALL! And what does that mean!?! I HAVE NO SHOWER!

So here I am trying to keep my cool. REALLY WANTING A SHOWER. While my son is grounded to his room . I'm sorry, but that attitude I don't care where he gotit from it is NOT tolerated in my house. My neighbors can deal with all the crying they want, but I'm sick of my son's attitude. I don't know what to do anymore. 

My ex just lets my son walk all over him, cry till he gets his way, and has no guidelines or rules for my son. So of course I'm the evil mom and I have to deal with the broken furniture, the holes in the wall from toys being thrown at me, the numerous broken dishes that gets tossed to the floor, and the pissed of neighbors who come banging on my door because my son throws tantrums.

Is it just me? Am I really mean? Am I too harsh? Is this what I have to look forward too till my son learns reason?! This is killing me.

Tonight, no shower now, its the last straw.  I know it's not my son's fault. He doesn't really know any better. When it comes to not getting his way he still hasn't learned to talk about his problems. But I want to just break down and start crying bhat to do ecause I don't know wanymore. I need help, but right now I need a damn good plumber.  

 And I need to cross my fingers in hopes my landlord doesn't kick us out.

[jackybeertje]

Oct. 22, 2007 at 1:25 PM

no your not harsh or anything. a child needs rules, structure and guildlines and your giving that to him. It is probably the way of dealing with ths situation for him. It will be hard for him to have mommy and daddy in to different places and even harder that both of them have different rules (or one doesnt have rules at all) When he will grow older he will start to understand and then you can explain to him why there are rules. And if he does that kind of stuff, put him on a time out chair or so. And try to ignore him. No fun by doing stuff if mommy doesnt give the reaction that he wants (and that is probably any reaction) It will be hard to ignore him when he does that, but it will work (maybe not right away) And then when his episode is over you can give him posetive attention and do something fun or so with him.