MY STORY...

[jennifermay]

I am writing this to have all of my Cafe Mom Friends get to know me better... With who I am and what I am proud of :)

I will start when I first found out I was pregnant with Alexis (my oldest)... I was only 20 years old and I was scared to death when I found out. I was so young and until that moment I never even thought I wanted kids. I was so scared of being a Parent (I couldn't barely take care of myself) that I was thinking of my other choices except for keeping her... My Boyfriend (Both of My Girl's Father) told me he would not be able to stay with me if I didn't keep her... it would break his heart and tear us apart... and so I made the decision that changed my life completely, I decided to keep my Beautiful Blessing, Alexis! And I Thank God and My Boyfriend everyday for helping me see what was right and what changed my life for the Better!!!

Before the time I found out I was pregnant... I was a Server at Olive Garden making decent money but not enough to cover my partying and my bills... I partied day and night and so went my money... I was so far in debt ($56,000 in debt)... and I hadn't gone to College... and my life was just going in a downward spiral... going Nowhere fast! When I decided to keep my Beautiful Blessing... it was the best decision I ever made!!! It changed my Life completely and I got myself together because I had to!!!

Santi and I did great the first couple of months I was pregnant.. until I was about 6 months along.. I will admit that myself and my Boyfriend had a lot of problems and issues at that time... He decided to go out a lot and leave me at home alone while I was sick or tired... I was working 40 hours per week Serving... Trying to save money for a place to live and everything we would need for our little one while he was maybe working 25 hours per week and going out almost every night. I finally had it! I told him to shape up and if he didn't I would do something about it! I put up with it for a while because I loved him and we had our little one on the way... But ofcourse like most men he didn't smarten up fast enough... so I left! We were living with his Sister and Brother n Law at the time in a little tiny room in their Apartment in Albuquerque, NM... I called my Parents (they live in Phoenix, AZ) and said to meet me there in a week... I got a UHUAL and left!

7 and half months pregnant and I felt more alone than I ever have in my life! I moved in with my Mom in her little 1 Bedroom Apartment... There was my Mom, myself, and my Sis Danielle. To top that off my dog Missy (she was my Baby) got killed 30 minutes after I arrived in Phoenix... A Land Rover ran her over and they didn't even stop! I watched her die in my arms... I never had anyone die in my life so it crushed me... I was so lost and hurt. I called Santi (my Boyfriend, well ex at the time) all night... he was ofcourse out partying... he kept hanging up on me... I seriously had hit rock bottom! I was 7 months pregnant, no money, living in my Mom's apartment, and I lost my dog (who was the one thing in my life keeping me together)

So, from there I gave up on Santi (it seemed like he didn't give a shit)... I stopped calling and I was going to do this on my own!!! Because that is who I am, very Independant and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger I always say! I spent the next 2 months crying myself to sleep trying to get myself strong and ready to take care of my Baby on my own... Out of nowhere Santi started calling me and writing me... he missed her Birth and it hit him... He kept writing me that he wanted to be a family and make it right... That he had changed and he loves me and wants to take care of our Little Girl.

Okay, so some say people never change... but that is wrong because he is proof that they do! He did a complete turn around! He moved to Phoenix (where he has no one) and became the best Daddy and Boyfriend ever! He is the love of my life and has given myself and my girls ever ounce of love we need and ever wanted! I always give someone a second chance and good thing I believe in doing that. Because it got myself and my Family where we are at today! Now we are happier than ever and we have our two Beautiful Girls who have given us every reason to make a better life for ourselves and family and enjoy every minute of it!

I am now 25 years old and I have had experienced a whole lot more than most 25 year olds! I worked my butt off at Olive Garden and got promoted to Manager (with in 3 and half years of being employed with them)... I had a Career as a Manager with Olive Garden but I was spending 55 to 60 hours at work per week! I never saw my Baby Girls, Santi or was able to spend any time with them. I was always working because I want a better life for my Girls then what I had. It just was so hard on us and we were falling apart as a family.... So I made a choice to change my life for the better! I gave up my Career... And made the decision to start my Home Business... Again, one of the best choices I have ever made in my life! I get to be at home with my Girls raising them and being with them everyday! Watching them grow... and learn new things everyday! And what is even better is I make an Income from home and also I am building a Residual Income to pass on to them when they grow up :)

I am writing this because this is who I am... and to let you all know that everyone has hard times and we all hit Rock Bottom at one point or another but we get through it! If I never hit Rock bottom then I would have never had my Baby Girls or my Home Business... And that is Who I Am... that is what I live for... is for those reasons! Heart, Dedication and Determination will get you through anything in life!

Believe in yourself and who you are... and you can get through anything! Look at me... I have my Baby Girls, my Awesome Man, and a Home Business that gives me the freedom to spend time with my family!

"What Doesn't Kill You... Makes You Stronger"

I want all of you to know that even if we aren't the best of friends or know each other all that well... I am here for all of you and my life is about helping others and believing in them... So if you ever need a shoulder to cry on or someone to turn to or even to give great news... I am here for you!!!

With all My Heart and Dedication...

Jennifer May

 

[wearingyourbaby]

Oct. 25, 2007 at 7:01 PM

thanks for sharing!

[jade071215]

Oct. 25, 2007 at 7:04 PM Thanks for sharing this with us.  I would really like to know what you do to be a stay at home mom, I really am struggling financially and have a 2nd child on the way.  Very much interested in being with my kids...thanks!

[LORI521]

Oct. 25, 2007 at 7:34 PM Thank u so much for sharing that with us.  I also have had my struggles and thank god, I gave up my partying every night.  You really are  a strong woman.

[Cynthia_Quilts]

Oct. 25, 2007 at 10:43 PM

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain"  And you my girl learned to dance. I don't know you but, but I feel honored to have you as a friend. - and yes I would like to know more about this homebased business you keep talking about .

So let me know what this business is all about.

[alston_n_sarah]

Oct. 25, 2007 at 11:28 PM

Wow, you have had it rough.  I'm glad you got through it.  I would have been so scared (as you were) to be raising a child alone.  I'm very happy to hear that he straightened up and got right with his life and is taking care of ya'll.  It's amazing what children can do to you.  You are younger than me but have been through a lot.  Now, the question is why haven't ya'll gotten married?  It seems that both of you are very happy with your lives so why don't ya'll make it official and get married?  Just wondering.  Well thank you for sharing your story and I wish you the very best of luck.  I am also use to bringing home good money and I chose to stay home with my kids and be a part of their lives and I am also wanting to get a job.  I have talked to several ppl about Melalueca and it sounds good, just scared to jump into something.  Anyways good luck.

[shortcake82418]

Oct. 26, 2007 at 8:28 AM

That's amazing how much we are alike.  I am also 25, I had my first son 4 days after I turned 20.  So, I had to leave college for a few years...I had my second son when I was 21.  My husband was always going out partying, doing drugs, drinking, cheating on me, ect.  So 2 weeks after my second son was born I moved in with my parents in NC.  I was living in NY.  So, I'm still here with my parents, unlike you....me and my husband got divorced and it will stay that way.  I'm glad you got back with your husband, but my husband was horrible to me....never cared about me, made me do all the work, cheated on me with my best friend and a worst enemy and other people i couldn't stand.  I don't know how i got through being with him for almost 2 years....i was so miserable.  He wouldn't even help me clean up anything, he wouldn't cook, he was working part-time...making no money and what he did make he'd use up at concerts or on drugs.  Ahh...he was just horrible.  anyway, What home business are you in??

I have been babysitting and last year i finished my associate degree online, but i'm still stuck with no money.

[Bonafiedmom2]

Oct. 30, 2007 at 5:08 AM Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us.  I also was a young mom at the age of 18.  Now a mom of two wonder kids.  I am also still with my kids daddy after 13 yrs and married 7 of those yrs.  My hubby is the most wonderful man and my bestfriend.  Thank you again!

[BreakingFree]

Oct. 30, 2007 at 6:36 AM

What an inspirational story.. thanks for sharing that... I am glad that everything has worked out for your family, you are a smart intelligent woman, who knows what she wants out of life and doesn't accept anything less.  Kudos to you...  thanks for helping others that may be in a tough spot now in life, this helps others see that you can overcome all things in life, but you have to want it really bad.. determination... determination... determination....

Blessings to you and your family....

[JANMRP]

Oct. 30, 2007 at 7:37 AM

Thanks for sharing your story

Janice

[jennyjay]

Oct. 30, 2007 at 7:39 AM Thank you for sharing....Awesome story and I love and admire your attitude.....Maybe you can take the time to go read mine as well...It's somewhat different than yours...Your girls are real beauty's!!!Maybe you could share with me about your home business as well...I am looking for alittle something to do that is not real overwhelming right now...NM is beautiful,I had the chance to ride cross-country last year andI passed thru there to Arizona.........Hugs,Jennifer