I dont know what to do....

[jjsmom772001]

Well I have this boyfriend that I do love and want to be with but I dont see things working... I am now 25 weeks pregnant and ever since I found out he has changed... He wont do anything and I mean anything in the house like he used to and does nothing but sit around complaining about everything...I have repeatly talked to him about things but nothing has come out of it.. Then there is his son.. I'm sorry but he is 5 yrs old and acts like a little baby and gets on my last nerve. All he does is yell at him when he has him and im tired of hearing it all weekend. Now a couple weeks ago my so-called boyfriend decided to talk to me about my son, whom I know is far from an angel, and really upset me by telling me I'm not a good parent and I should be beating him for everything he does wrong... Ummm excuse me you need to go look in the mirror... Anyways I'm about to go crazy here... I told him the other night I have things bothering me about him and he said to tell him but honestly I already have and feel like its a waste of my time and breath talkin anymore about these things... I dont know what else to do and am really considering asking him to leave....

[luvmybaby]

Oct. 28, 2007 at 11:46 AM

Im sorry you are going through this, especially while preggo. I wont tell you wether you should leave or not, only you can make that decesion, no one should tell you to leave. All I can say is follow your heart. If you feel you are not going to be happy with him then go. If you think both of you can come to a compromise on everything stay if that is what you want.

I havent had to deal with a man like that so I dont really know what to say about it. It would drive me crazy-especially to have someone tell me to beat my child when they do something wrong. I have been told to spank my daughter-she is 13months, when she is doing something naughty. I get so upset. She is my child and I will discipline the way I feel fit, same goes for you. No child is perfect, they all do something naughty at some point.

 I would start out by talking to him about how you feel and see how his reaction is. That could tell you right then what you should do. He may not realize it is upsetting you so much. Everything will be ok in the end with whatever you choose to do.

[jjsmom772001]

Oct. 28, 2007 at 11:55 AM I have tried talkin to him about things that bother me and he acts like he doesnt care and nothing changes...

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[PunkinLPN]

Oct. 28, 2007 at 7:00 PM My advice is that you have to choose what is right for you and the child that you are carrying. One of the hardest decisions I had to make when I was pregnant with my second was whether to leave my x-husband or stay. I'm not telling you to leave him. You don't need any stress right now being pregnant. Some times with men you have to be blunt and lay it all out on the table in "Man Terms".  I don't like you telling me how to be a parent when you need to be a better parent to your own child. You need to help me more. Then take it from there.