What to do or say?

  • November 2, 2007 at 1:40 PM by rossmommy
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My ss is 5 and in a preschool program and i don't think it is helping him. He cames to our house on the weekend and I will ask him what he learned at school and he tells me nothing. I maybe jsut worrried for no reason but at 5 he doesn't know his abc's, he can only count to 15, and only knows a few colors. He can't write and doesn't know his name other than dusty. Should I be worried that he is behind developmentally? His BM is like he is the smartest person in his class and they want to move him to kindergarten after christmas. I don't know if she is just telling me that or she is blind to the fact of how far behind he is. I have talked to his dad and he is honest he doesn't know where he should be. Well up until this August Dusty never went to daycare or anything. And no one took the time to teach him and when i try he just yells at me. Should i get preschool work books and work with him or do i just leave it up to his mom. People keep telling me not my problem he doesn't live with me, but i think one day he will and so do i just wait or take charge now?  

Comments:

emera...
Yikes.  Has he been screened for Autism?  Will he look at you, ask you for help, go to you for comfort when something is scary?

emeraldengland Nov. 2, 2007 at 1:42 PM

emera...

It's unfortunate that no one else is taking an interest in his education.  Bless you for taking the interest, and go for it!  Keep it low key and fun, or he will just get put off. Can you watch education things with him and  talk about the shows for fun?  Try signing time DVDs.  If he does have autism, signing is very helpful, and if he doesn't he might like learning to talk with his hands.  The plus side is you can teach him to sign his name, then what the words look like on paper.  A concrete touch, do, draw approach gets more of his brain involved.

Let me know if I can help!  You sound like a fabulous step mom.  Please don't be afraid to help him develop into the brightest young man he can be.

emeraldengland Nov. 2, 2007 at 1:45 PM

2prot...
I would try to teach him as much as I could while he is with me,  but you need to do it in a fun way.  Play I spy  with my little eye,  and have him look for letters,  colors and shapes.  If you make a game out of it , you will be teaching him w/o him even realizing it,  and you will also find out what he really does know.  My kids are straight  A students,  but when asked what they learned they always say "nothing".  Find fun ways to teach him.  Get flash cards and play games.  Whoever is telling you He is not your problem is giving you BAD advice.  When you choose to have a relationship with someone who has kids, you need to do your best to develop a good relationship with those kids.   It is a package deal . 

2protectivemom Nov. 2, 2007 at 1:47 PM

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