Child Support

[AlleyKatt22]

Today I had to go to child support court. I have been dreading it since I got the notice but it's one of those things I have to deal with. I never like facing my ex in person. He is a mean mean evil thing and there is alot painful memories that go with him. Normally I have someone to go with me but I had to go alone this time. My husband just started his new job and obviously could not go and my best friend couldn't come cause she had to get her munchkin off to school. So I faced my demons all by my lonesome. I was shaking really badly when I got there. I thought for sure that he would not show because this was a contempt hearing but he was already there when I arrived.

A little background on the child support. My son will be 9 years old in a month and I finally got an order in October of last year for support (I filed for it in 2000 and he managed to dodge all attempts to get him in court). Even after the order went through, he did not pay. I finally got my first check in March of this year and I got them every week for a whole month. Then he quit or lost his job. Then I got nothing until he filed taxes. I got those and then nothing. Then I got some partial payments every 2 weeks instead of every week for about 2 months and nothing since September. The contempt hearing notice came in the mail on my wedding day(what a great gift)!

Well when we finally got called into the courtroom, They grilled him about money and bills and jobs and why wasn't he working and on and on. He was very rude and disrespectful to the judge and this made her very not happy. I was very surprised that they were that serious with him. I am glad but still surprised. He basically told them that he can't work now because they suspended his license and the judge quickly reminded him that had he paid then it would not have been suspended and that its his fault not theirs. He is not the victim and they told him to stop trying to act it. They told him it must be nice that all of the people in his life take care of his bills for him and that I bet his son would like to have that. That his son would really enjoy his own roof over his head and nice food on the table and gifts for christmas without his mother trying to kill herself to give it to him. After that the judge wanted to take a recess.

We took a break for about 30-45 minutes and then got called back in. I know the second I walked in and there were 2 deputies in the room that he was going to jail. The judge told him that he was not putting enough effort into finding a job and that his attitude in court showed that he doesn't care that his son is going without because of him. She sentenced him to 120 days in jail. She did advise him that he could pay $800 of the $10270 that he owes me to get out early but if he does not then he will serve all 120 days get and repeat the process until he starts paying. It felt good to have the court fight for my son. I fight for him everyday in the way he is raised and in making sure he gets the best of everything and I hope that his "sperm donor" will use the 120 days to think about what he is depriving Andrew of. I doubt he will but I like to have an optimistic outlook. Thanks for reading this far!!!

[ladybuglover]

Nov. 8, 2007 at 4:35 PM u go girl!!!!  But we both know Robert he is a loss cause and he will serve his time. Hell Jail is his second home away from home. Once you are in you always find away to get back in. I hope that it will work out, but take it from me, just ask him to give up his rights and let James adopt him. You will not get child support any more but you are not getting it now. Then it  will all work out, u will feel so much better. But I would make Robert pay for it though. Well I love ya!!!!!!!!! Sorry u had to face that SOB by your self. There is noway in heck that I would have. I would have been fumming and probably would have slapped him. Well if his license is suspended who brought him up there his dear ol mother?