I am so sorry to hear that.  I am not yet ready to date either in a lot of ways but in some ways I am.  I think we all take our own time to heal and until we are completely healed we won't have healthy relationships so why push it too fast?  I am sorry about your ex.  My stbx is pulling crap like that these days also.  Hang in there

jokelta Nov. 17, 2007 at 2:13 AM

It will get better.  Think of how your life has improved since you wrote this post.  Do you believe what the Bible says that, Everything works to the good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose?  If you believe that then you have nothing to worry about.  God knows your heart.  Just pray without ceasing!  It may take time before you see the change that you want to see, whether it be in your ex-husband or whether it be in yourself.  I'm willing you will change (for the better) before he will because you are willing to allow the Lord to change you.  Changing your behavior and attitude and allowing God to keep you positive and not allow anything to steal your joy is a change.  It is real!  If you believe keep believing!  You are a vibrant woman!  Don't let anyone steal your happiness!  Find at least one thing you love about yourself everyday and remember the things that God has done for you so you will be encouraged through hard times.  I suggest you keep a journal (like me) of all the prayers God has answered and you will be strengthened by it in the future.  Love you sista.  This too shall pass and you will be stronger and wiser for it.  God is making you into the type of woman you would want in a man.  You want a man who has his stuff together right?  Well, you've just been through a lot and to make sure you wont do the same to someone else or be on the rebound, you have to heal.  Focus on you and not what he (your ex) is doing in your life.  It sucks but if you let him get you sad, mad or angry because of his actions, then he still has control or power in your life.  He wants to get to you, don't let him do it.  Focus on Janice and you will see that he doesn't matter anymore.  Love you.

beautifulme Jan. 17, 2008 at 3:06 PM