I took both of my kids today to the DR and i feel weird when she said that she needs to see my daughter's "private parts"....she is 5, i don't see any reason for her to do that, especially if when she asked me about any concern with my daugther i said nothing anormal ........

Bothers me a lot that she took a look at jenny's and jenny said.....TICKLES, and she answer back ...I KNOW IT'S GROSS, she said it in a joke mode, but bothers me a lot!, i jumped up and add, "jenny, its ok, it is not gross, its your body...it is ok baby!

I DON'T CARE if she feels bad with my comment, I DO CARE about my daughter's impression about her own body, i don't want her to think that her private parts is something "dirty".

She also took a look on my boy, she said that she wanted to see if the testicles were in place (of course i feel her like uncomfortable, after the answer that i gave to my daughter) i kind can understand that, but not checking to my 5 yrs old.

Do you think that i went too far with my comment? i just what to protect my kids, my daughter is in age that she is easy to get influence for another people opinion, i want her to have a healthy mind........

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 7:50 PM My kids haven't been examined down there since there were babies, I've never heard of a 5 yr old having that done, no I don't think your comment went too far, I completely understand.

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 7:53 PM With boys its one thing because their testicles can go up into their belly and they don't even know it and that can cause some major problems, but a girl?! No I definately don't think you went too far!  I would have said more than that!

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 7:58 PM I don't think your reaction was bad, you have the right to express in the way that you want!!!!

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 8:05 PM mine are all boys so about  the girl part I have no clue. My boys when they last went for their check up the oldest is 8 and he got checked out down there but that might also be cause he was always digging down there lol. but the 5 yr old  they still check him and they all laugh their ass's off when they get examed down there or when I wash them so don't know what to tell you,,,, you  should had asked the doc

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 8:07 PM what i didnt like what the "IT IS GROSS" comment for the DR

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 9:05 PM

yeah thats an odd thing for a DOCTOR to say, who is the one person that should be instill good body image and care. i dont like that! and im PROUD of you for jumping in and reminding Jenny that her privates are not "gross".

as for the the doct. actually checking out Jenny, Im not entirely sure how i feel. i know that i was "check out" in that way when i was little, and my mom told me it made her mad. i think its partially up to teh doctors style/discretion? (although im not sure) i only say this because i remember family members telling my mom over the years not to allow them to do that past a certain age. maybe look this up online? sorry i cant be of more help sweets! love you!

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 9:28 PM

I'm sorry you and your children had that experience.  One thing that people should always remember is that you are the consumer.  I know this is something that is discussed at stores, restaurants, etc. but it applies to healthcare providers too.

The doctor was out of line and there was nothing wrong with your reaction.  It might make you feel better to write a letter (I'm a BIG letter-writer) to the doctor stating your concerns.  Also state that you will be changing pediatricians.  If you are not comfortable writing to the doctor, write to her boss or do some research to file a formal complaint with the medical board.

I hope you and your children are able to recover.  I think your kids have probably already forgotten the situation but it is clearly still on your mind. 

Just like you have to shop for a good car, you have to shop for good healthcare providers too.  Good luck!

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 10:27 PM WOW!!  That is surprising that she (the dr) would even draw attention to her like that (calling it gross).  I can't remember at what age each of the children stopped being examined down there but I can assure you that it was just a real quick peek, maybe a cold hand and at most a quick test for the pulse...then all done.  short and to the point!  Was this your usual pediatrician? 

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 11:30 PM You should get a new doctor.

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Nov. 16, 2007 at 11:33 PM No, you should have said that.  You don't want your dd to have a negative impression of her own body.  I honestly don't know about checking them "down there"  it does seem a bit strange to me, but I honeslty don't know, that's just my knee-jerk reaction

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