ups and downs

[RosaMae]

with the holidays coming i am super excited.  school is officially down to less than a month!  the tree is up with gifts under it.   hot coco is constantly being made at  our place (which is why i had to make 10 lbs  :P ).  everyone here is healthy... notice i put here...

wes' grandpa has been sick for some time.  here lately it has gotten worse and worse.  they tried putting a stent in his liver- which was something we'd never heard of before.  needless to say it wasn't a success.  he was suppose to stay in the hospital but he checked himself out thanksgiving because he wanted to see his dog.  we're pretty concerned about that.  he was suppose to go back yesterday but we haven't heard from him so we really don't know.   it's not looking good though...  we were really hoping he'd make it another year so he could be at our wedding, but that's looking less and less likely.  

on top of dealing with that, the holidays always make you miss your passed away loved ones.  unfortunately for wes that includes his mom.  she died last year in may.  he didn't really deal with it in a healthy way then and i think he was kept too busy to let it bother him as much last year at christmas because we were preparing to move me and the baby in with him - or maybe he's just more comfortable with being vounerable with me this year, but it broke my  heart to see him missing her so much.  i never got the chance to meet her and i really regret that.  while she wasn't a perfect mother- you can tell he really loved her.  i don't know what i can do to make him feel better and i am sure there really isn't anything but i just hate to see him in pain.

 i also found out today that my parents gave our dog away.  i say our dog but originally it was my mom's. then when chloe was born he became her dog.  he would sleep outside her door when she was newborn.  then when she got a little older he would sleep beside her crib.  she could do anything to that dog and he would never react with anything but affection.  we couldn't take him when we moved away, but at the time we didn't think anything of it.  after all, why wouldn't my parents keep him... and my yorkie.  my poor yorkie died within hours of me making to my parents home over the summer.  i didn't get to say goodbye.  that dog was given to me by my favorite uncle before he died.  then my sister got pregnant and had a micro preemie.  they knew the couldn't keep the other dog (a collie).  i had talked to my mom about getting it when we thought we'd be moving and then one other time about seeing if wes' grandma would take care of it until we moved- which we planned on doing sooner or later.  well today i found out my dad gave the dog away.  i was suprised how upset i was by it.  i actually cried... and not just my eyes watered up, i cried.  once again- didn't get to say goodbye.  these dogs were part of the family and within a years time they're both just gone.  now my parents are offering to by chloe a dog when we move.  i know it won't be the same.  that was her dog.  that dog would have done anything for her.  and not to mention me.  i loved him... and now he's gone.  

[mrs_3kids]

Nov. 25, 2007 at 1:18 AM Wow Rosa, I see that you have had a lot on your plate right now...the only thing tht i can say is to PRAY! And since you do not know what to do with your husband in pain, just go and sit up under him, show him a whole bunch of attention, Give him a bath, give him a foot massage. Give him a back rub, go on a short two week exciting trip together, somewhere he'd always like to go. This will help him cope witht he pain even the more and get over it quicker. I am working on preparing myself on what to do when my Inlaws go to be with the Lord. I ask myself, how will i comfort my husband., As far as the dog goes, i am sorry to hear that. Good Luck

[Momforhealth]

Nov. 25, 2007 at 1:11 PM Im so sorry..:( Big hugs..Do not know what I would do without my dog

[BlueBeauties]

Nov. 25, 2007 at 6:59 PM Sounds like trying times in the Rose household...sorry to hear about Dale.  I'll keep him in my thoughts.  Just keep taking thigns one day at a time and be there when Wes inveitably will finally break down and show his emotions.