What do I do? Please help

[hillbillyma]

OK, little back story....My friend who also happens to be my neighbor is engaged to her man...(its his place, they are living at) He has a son, and she has three kids. I found out he was cheating on her and being a friend I told her......Especially since the girl he was with is claiming to be pregnant! (If she is he admits to family its his)...Well, after I told her what I knew...she would not talk to me, she didnt believe me, (big surprise), and I was a horrible person, for even mentioning it! Well, I have spoken with his sister (another friend, and neighbor of mine) and, he has told his family that he plans on staying with her until he receives his tax check....then he plans on "helping her" get set up in her own place and will be done with her....( I know for a fact if this is his plan, his family will try and change his mind about helping her from now til then) They do NOT like her at all!! I am worried for her....she will be hurt emotionally, but also may find herself out in the street with no plpace to go! I want to tell her, but after the way she acted last time, I know it will be just a waste of breath...And, I again will be a horrible human being! What do I do? Should I tell her? What would you do? Please help!!

[Guinhyvar]

Nov. 27, 2007 at 3:55 PM

Seriously, at this point, I would just stay out of it. You tried to warn her once about him, and she straight didn't believe you. It's tough to see friends go through hard times but I think in this case, she won't listen to anything that you say. Maybe if someone else comes to her and tells her... but I don't think she'll listen to you. I think she may just see you as an instigator.

I had a good buddy who's girl was straight cheating on him; I totally CAUGHT her at it! There was NO mistaking what they were doing. Of course I went to him, told him, and when she caught up with him, she LIED, big time, and said all this stuff about how I was just trying to make trouble, I had never liked her in the first place (which was true, admittadly), how I just wanted her out of the picture (also true, but because I thought she was bad for him and to him), that I was jealous of their "love", AND the capper, about how the guy I caught her with was really her cousin (which was ALSO true~ but a cousin by marriage, we were to find out) and that "nothing happened".

Well, long story short, he totally believed her, and pretty much told me to piss off. We were, suffice to say, no longer friends. Sad but true. And then he found out that he had an STD, and geeeeee, wonder where that came from, and the whole sordid truth came out. Still, he and I never regained our friendship.

From then on, I NEVER EVER get involved. The truth always comes out. And as sucky as it is to see your friends get slaughtered on the altar of love, more often than not, they turn around and blame you for it. "Kill the messanger" and all that.