lets talk sex

[TaraM]

So, I have talked to a few people, about this subject, seeking advise just to find out that it is not just me or my relationship, but it happens to other people too.

Since my daughter has been born, our sex life has lacked enthusiasm to say the least. We are not intimate very often and when we are, it is not like it used to be. Where does the passion and the adventure go?

Has this happened to anyone else? I have never encountered this problem, has anyone overcome this issue or has society just come to accept that having children, kills sex lives?

[ltnbrn]

Nov. 28, 2007 at 8:46 PM

This is VERY common. It's just that life starts to take over. I know by the end of the day, I am tired--physically, mentally and emotionally. It's hard to feel romantic when you just want to put your feet up and veg!

[cat12]

Nov. 28, 2007 at 8:51 PM

Hi tara,

I just wanted tell you that I dont think having children kills your sex life. Its the sleepless nights, going all day, hormone changes ....shall I go on? Its alot for your body to handle. Some women are lucky to have the over abundance of hormones that help in that department . There are the few of us that are not so lucky but it doesnt have to be the end of your sex life. you just have to be more inventive and you have to be able to do time management. Sorry to have to sound like a business manager but its the truth. I realized (after 2 kids) I had to take the time to just "hang out" with my husband. I talked to him and told him that I couldnt have the pressure every time we were alone to be intimate. When we spent time together without the pressure I would ask him to massage my shoulders....things like this worked because it relaxed me... There are so many reasons and ways to handle what you are going through but that is just one example I can offer. Hope it helps.

[Dianarn88]

Nov. 30, 2007 at 11:25 AM

You are not alone. My poor hubby suffers too! I am just too exhausted. I have been making more of an effort and things are starting to improve.

I don't know if you have any close family or friends that can watch the baby over night. If you do, surprise your hubby with a nice dinner and hotel or something of that nature. But you know men, sex and food is all they need to be satisfied!