So it is MY FAULT his 10 year old son punched me 3 times?

[HeartofGold]

OMG...I am so furious right now I cant even type right. I am shaking so bad.

The night before thanksgiving we were at my sisters house and his son was being very disrespectful. He was giving nasty snarly looks and saying some very astonosing mean disrespectful stuff. His dad put him in the corner.
While he was in the corner he continued to do the same thing to me and I told him if he didn't quit I was going to spank his butt. Of course he continued so I got up and spanked his butt and he turned around and punched me in the stomach atleast 3 times. Mind you this was infront of 3 other adults while his dad was on the phone.
His dad apologized to me for his son doing this and we went on with thanksgiving.

Today he went to our family therapy appt and I stayed home because my eyes are killing me from my allergies I have been suffering from for the past month.

I asked him how it went and if it was discussed about him punching me. He said that it was discussed and that maybe in the future if I am going to spank him I can do it without making him feel like i am attacking him.

OMG....WTF? is he kidding? I  told him if he didnt stop I was going to spank him and he continued. he knew I was going to spank him. How did I catch him by surprise and make him feel like he was being attacked? OMG.....I WAS THE ONE BEING ATTACKED LONG BEFORE I EVEN SPANKED HIM.

I am so sick and tired of being told that I am the reason his son behaves in this fashion. Everytime his son does something he always comes back on me and says well if you would have done such and such different he wouldnt have done that...Bull Shit....excuse my language.

I just am so angry i am in tears. my anxiety right now is over whelming and I needed to get it out.

My fiance and his son took off. I asked them not to come home tonight but I know he will and I really don't want them to.

I know this is long and if you made it this far I truly appreciate your time...

[ilovetosew]

Nov. 28, 2007 at 8:55 PM how old is he?

[Gram12of15]

Nov. 28, 2007 at 8:57 PM

I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.  No child should strike an adult for being disciplined.  The problem, as you've described it, lies with the child & his father.  Think long & hard to be sure this is the family you wish to marry into.

[heavynlorraine]

Nov. 28, 2007 at 8:59 PM Ten years old you said that is the age where they know right form wrong and it just doesn't make since that his dad has not gotten on him about that. You are the adult and there have to be guidelines and respect of authority since you and the dad plans on being married.

[VivianasMommy]

Nov. 28, 2007 at 9:40 PM I am sorry that you have to go through that. I would be very upset as well. I can't believe the Dad thinks this is ok. I hope he comes to realize his son is the problem.

[Addys_mommy]

Nov. 29, 2007 at 11:50 AM I've seen a few of your post about your step son and he seems to need some serious help. Especially the one where he went after your 2 yr old with a knife. I would leave his dad and let him deal with it its not worth putting you or your children in harms way, and his dad doesn't seem to care he just blames so I say let him deal with it on his own!