Yes, Jon has some friends who are women.  He knows them from work.  If I ask to look at his texts from his phone, he lets me.  He doesn't have any friends who are women that he e-mails, but if he did, I'd trust him.  That said, there are some husband/boyfriends that can't be trusted.  Then again, I wouldn't let myself be in that kind of relationship.  If you can't trust the one you're with, who can you trust?

bluiidmommy Nov. 30, 2007 at 8:09 PM

Yes my dh has all women co-workers and contacts in his phone and e-mail. Some of their names I know and others I do not, but he would never intentionally keep a name away from me. I have all passwords to everything and I have access to all credit cards and debits so our relationship is an open book.

kalamom Nov. 30, 2007 at 8:39 PM

i would be mad as hell i think he should tell u who u talk to girl or men

SHAWNA443 Dec. 1, 2007 at 2:07 AM

allow him no i dont but he does. But i'm confident my place in his heart. but the secrets send up a red flag.

libramomma24 Dec. 7, 2007 at 7:35 PM

I have a problem with my man having female friends because the first thing that crosses my mind as to whether or not he turns to here when we are having prolems.  Is he coniding in here instead of me?  All these questions run through my mind and the way he acts at times makes me really wonder.  And yet and still he claims that I am the one who is making him feel insecure.  Please!

Mrs.LadyG716 Dec. 27, 2007 at 7:02 PM

I just read your thread and had to read your journal. 

I think there is a difference between females friends and "crossing the line"...I actually think it is more suspicious that a spouse not tell their SO about one of their opposite sex friends, than talk about them all the time.  Kind of like, "what they don't know, won't hurt them" kinda logic.  My husband has a couple of female friends at work, but they don't email him or anything.  It's more of a work relationship than a friend relationship.  The only real girl friends my husband has are mine, haha. 

AFreidin0001 Feb. 1, 2008 at 7:40 PM

i do let my Bf have lady friends as long as there is no nudity pics, sexual comments or nothing of that sort! and same goes for me with the fellas!!!!

allison_r Jul. 23, 2008 at 4:20 AM

This is a HUGE part of why I am a single mom right now. My husband doens't see anything wrong with female friends & I do. Well co-workers ok, someone I know ok, pictures NOT ok, long & frequent calls NOT ok.

I see this was a while ago. What happened with this???

GDIMOM Jul. 25, 2008 at 8:03 PM

I'm currently going through a divorce because I trusted my husbands homegirls were just homegirls.  But it started with simple flirtation to teting to IM'ing to emails to sending pics back in forth to an affair.  In the beginning we both let eachtoher know our friends because I also have male friends.  But like it was stated earlier you have to know where to cross the line with your friends...my soon to be 'x' didn't know where to set the line with some of his female friends.  You can't have a relationship with no trust...believe me I tried and it doesn't work.

But I'm keeping my head up because I know I went through this for a reason (other then my 2 beautiful daughters).  And this has only made me stronger, a more independent woman and I know what I deserve:)

MizzAthena Sep. 6, 2008 at 9:38 PM