The Nanny

[MissNicole]

Okay for those of you who have so graciously decided to read my blog, I am formally asking for feedback on this one. It may be hard to respond if you do not have a current set of or single offspring; so please consider that when responding.

For months now, we eagerly awaited the birth of our precious daughter. She's finally here now as you all know, and I am going to need forgivness on the delayed pictures. You see I have a toddler who views any type of electronical device the same way he views candy. He has to have it NOW! So, yesterday while doing my routine paper declutter, I found my camera. While invisioning what life would be like with a second infant in diapers, I felt pretty confident. So confident that I didn't think twice about breastfeeding them both (I still haven't mastered that "at the same time", but we're working on that) , so confident that I denied my husband's offer to hire full-time help. Now I have friends who utilize the option of full-time live-in help/childcare, so I am somewhat familiar with schedules that include this amenity. I am now considering this option, especially since we are anticipating another move to a bigger home. I am curious to hear from anyone who has hired help, or raised children with a nanny...What has your experience been and what are your thoughts on this issue? (i.e. - pros & cons?)

[Robin]

Nov. 28, 2006 at 11:03 AM

I think a live out nanny is better - it'll cost a little more but I think the privacy is worth it.

It's good if you can find a nanny w/good instincts.  One who knows when you want to be alone w/your kids and backs off to give you some space.

I struggle w/the balance all the time.  I like my privacy and time w/my kids...but I often feel overwhelmed.

[brieanne]

Dec. 1, 2006 at 1:27 PM

Hi! I too have thought about a nanny lately ...... luckily I am having my sister come live with me for a few months! My husband works on call and is often gone for a few days.... I find that I rely on our friends a little too much for help with errands, watching the kids for a few minutes, etc. So I was ready to hire a "mother's helper" ... a young college student to help a few mornings a week with watching the kids while I work at home, run a few errands, whatever. Now my sister will be here for a few months, so I don't have to worry about finding a trustworthy help just yet. 

Have you thought about just a part-time nanny? Good luck and let us know what happens!

[Snowjule]

Dec. 12, 2006 at 12:30 AM HI!  I'm new to Cafe Mom and Southern California for that matter!  I have just one child but when she was born, two months early, at 2lbs 12 oz, and  a feeding schedule of every two hours, I was ready to hire a nanny!  But we weren't in the position to do so.  If you have the funds I say do it.  You have your hands full and you're kids need you to be fully charged at all times but that isn't always possible unless you come with a charger!!  Even a part time nanny would help especially in the beginning to help with a new one.  Good Luck!

[SycilysMama]

Dec. 31, 2006 at 3:24 AM

Hi ok so I am a nanny! I thought maybe hearing a little bit from the other side would put a perspective on the live in live out nanny situation and any other thing I can bear some light on. I nanny for a 8 month old little boy. I am a live out nanny as I have my own child!! In my case I was friends with the parents before and they did offer for me to live with them. From my point of view it is easier on the family and on the nanny not to have them be live in!! Reasons are: 1) The nanny is more at ease with the children without parents there at all times!! 2) Parents have more family time with just the kids. 3) You need your alone time and your house to yourself without someone else there all the time.

Also from my perspective as the nanny. ..  . It is really hard on the mom becuz she doesn't feel like she gets to do all the "Mommying" She isn't there for every lil scrape or new babble!!  I also have a friend who IS a live in nanny she doesnt like it. She feels overwhelmed at times becuz she says the kids tend to listen to her more. Even though the mom is home at the same time she is home with the kids. She says the mom acts indifferent to her and the kids now that they hired her.

I hope that some of what I said will help. I do think you sound like you need help!! Just reconsider the live in part!!

Have a great day and good luck

 

[salonelan]

Nov. 1, 2009 at 1:10 PM

OMG I love your writing style! I know nothing about nanny's but we do have our writing style in common. Are you still blogging?