My Situtation!!!

[LPosey8604]

Hey Ladies,

I am really hoping that you encouraging words and knowledge can help me through this rough spot in my life. This is a long one so I hope that you ladies have the time to really read and understand what I am going through.

Okay so it started last night my fiance and I decided to play a communication game and while playing the game it came out that my fiance who got baptized Tuesday (I did as well) wasn't really sure if his baptism was what he wanted to do. I got upset because I feel like religion is not something to play with either you understand and accept it or you don't and learn more about it before you just take a huge step like that.

He tells me that he still has questions and wants to do more research to find the "truth" and I mean I feel like each religion has it's hidden secrets that man took upon himself to do deceitful and scandalous things and hid them from the history books, not God himself.

So for whatever reason he keeps proclaiming that he wants to learn more about ALL religions, but the only one I keep hearing him talk about is Islam. That I have a huge issue with this because they think that Jesus is simply a "messenger" of God and not his  "Son". I mean that totally contradicts what I believe and think it would cause major issues within our home seeing that the beliefs are so controversial.

So I state as much and broadly state that I don't think I could see myself with someone of the Muslim faith because of their beliefs (mind you he is suppose to just be RESEARCHING ALL religions) and the total contradiction of their teachings . So my fiance gets this massive attitude calls his father (who thinks the "white man" is the root of all evil, which has nothing to do with the beliefs of the Islamic religion) and says that he's moving out and needs somewhere to stay . He told him that I told him get out and that there can be no us because of our different views on religion (at not point did I say you have got to go and last we talked he had no chosen a religion so why get to defensive about a broad statement and be come to angered and ready to leave all of a sudden.)

Ladies, I am so lost right now and the worst part is in this struggle of uncertainty I may be pregnant. I don't want or need this stress, but I love him and want to have a family. If you ladies could provide scriptures, words, encouragement, or prayer to get us through this trying time I would be so grateful. I just feel so decieved by his actions and confused (by the baptism even though he was uncertain and the haste to leave). I just am so lost I don't know I keep praying about it, it is giving me a headache and I can't leave work and I don't need to be here like this. It hard to hold back the tears and focus, I wish I wouldn't have forgotten my bible...

[irishchicksmom]

Dec. 17, 2007 at 3:50 PM

i will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  call your pastor or minister that baptized you, and talk freely with him about the situation. you can also be put on the prayer chain at church, just that they pray for you to have the right answer and make the right choice about a part of your life.  you dont have to be specific to the prayer chain if you dont want to.

 

[bobdavie]

Dec. 17, 2007 at 3:54 PM I will be praying for you also! You are right to feel that this is a MAJOR issue that will affect not only the remainder of your life as a couple but also your children and the choices they will face as adults. God will be with you and give you wisdom. Just wait on Him.

[Specialfey]

Dec. 17, 2007 at 4:12 PM

I think it just got out of hand. I hope ya'll can talk soon, and come to an agreement. Tell him that you'll help him research. What's just RESEARCH going to hurt?? It's ok if he's confused.

I'm sorry it escalated to that, I think you hurt his feelings by not understanding, and getting YOUR feelings hurt

[Nika87]

Dec. 17, 2007 at 6:07 PM

U r definitely right for your belief. I feel like you I cant date or b married to a man who doesn't believe or serve the same GOD I do.....

 2 Corinthians 6:14-16 says:  Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with a unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of GOD and Idols?

Hopes this helps......