I am looking for someone to talk to that has had similar experince or is going through something similar. Here is my situation.

I am a Christian, I love God and i want my daughter raised this way. My husband doesn't believe in God, something I was not really aware of until recently. He goes to church with me, but I know he gets nothing out of it. My daughter is 13 months now, but I can already forsee issues. He is fine with me taking her to church and teaching her my faith etc. He will tell her his if she asks. I told him that is he is going to be negative about church I would rather him not go with us because I don't want her to get that from him. He feels he was forced to go as a child and doesn't want to go. I told him I would never make him go becasue I can't force him to believe.

So far it isn't a fight or anything, he isn't against me raising her in church and doesn't care if she belives in God or not. I know the day will come when she is going to ask about Daddy, and I am prepared because my father never went to church either. I just feel like I am alone in raising my child to know the Lord and to be a Christian and it is very very important to me. I pray for him and for my daughter all the time and I just have to hope that God will take care of the rest.

I don't want to get bashed for my beliefs so please don't comment if you are going to do that. I just hope to find someone to give me some encouragement.

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Dec. 18, 2007 at 3:53 PM   My hubby is christian and I am pagan. We celebrate holidays and worship both ways because we want her to grow up and make up her own mind about her beliefs. Things were forced on my when I was a child so I know how he feels.

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Dec. 18, 2007 at 3:57 PM I don't want to force her because I also know what that does. I do want her to make her own decision. It isn't real if she doesn't, but I do want her to be exposed to it. If she were to tell me that she didn't believe in God and didn't want to go to church anymore I wouldn't make her. I just want her to know. I know forcing religion on people doesn't work.

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Dec. 22, 2007 at 4:19 PM

I will certainly be praying for your situation. The only thing you can do is pray for him. The Lord can work miracles. I feel like you are doing the right things, you aren't pushing him to go. Continue to take your little girl!  Maybe his heart will be softened by your commitment in still going. I do hope he will continue to go with you guys though, maybe hearing the Word would soften him up too!

Merry Christmas

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