why do i feel this way.....something is wrong with me!!

[bony]

1. ok.....its very difficult to talk about it. its my first time actually I dont know if any of you feel the same way but for me EDGAR my son 5yrs old changed my life completely, it took me a year to accept  his diagnosis ( autism/adds) at 2yrs9mos, i cried like i have never cried before ,i gained 25pounds, I stopped being a wife. a daugther, a friend and I focused on my son EDGAR and to find everything i could for him,My 13yr old daugther is having problems at school,shes soo mad at me ,she resents my change ,she needs me as much as my EDGAR but its hard to make time for both of them, I wake up I take them to school edgar has spechh therapy right after school,and after that he has ABA therapy im with him until 6;30 and by then im too tired to spend time with my daugther or any of my family I know they need me too, but now time is crucial for edgar I love my daugther and my husband my brother and everybody else but rigth now edgar needs me the most, and I dont want to hurt anybodys feelings, but rigth now im just th9inking in what can i do to help him. I m wrong does anybody feels the same way?

[nerak64]

Dec. 24, 2007 at 6:58 AM AWWWWWWWWWW. That is so hard. It is hard having a child with special needs. And you have to children that need you. I only have 1 child. And he is severe adhd. All my time and focus has been him. But of course I only have the 1 child. Your daughter is yours to. You have to make special time for her also. She will resent you in the future for not being there for her to. Is there anybody you can have watch your little guy. So you can spend some time alone with your daughter? I hope things get better for you. Hugs to you. Take care Karen

[rmmom801]

Dec. 24, 2007 at 7:09 AM I have ALOT of experience in this boat, unfortunately - my 9 year old was just dxed and I have a 14 and a 12 year old too - the change for them was dramatic - mama there mama not - I realized thru therapy that TOO much focus on the child that dxed is not good either makes it seem like something is REALLY wrong - enter fears and crisis  - I had to try to make everything that was new part of our routine, "normal" - how is this done?  Hard as it is one baby step I took was not talking about it constantly...trusting dh to take over and doing stuff with the others - even to the grocery store, a dog walking, admitting that I have not been there for them, sibling support groups or therapy - I realized that the more I involved them the less they felt they were out in the cold...not the greatest yet but it is getting a bit better....

[bony]

Jan. 19, 2008 at 12:09 AM thanks for your support its nice to know somebody cares!!!!!

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