I love Christmastime.  I think it is the MOST jubilant time of the year.  However.... this year my heart is heavy.  I feel the need to cry, but the tears hurt worse than the heaviness of my heart.

My entire immediate family and extended family come to my house for EVERY holiday, birthday, ect.  Most of the time, it is a lot of work with little appreciation, but I can take that.  Tonight, it was too much.

My younger sister's birthday is today, Christmas Eve.  I have 5 children, a husband, a father, mother, and several other people that will be at my house for the better part of tomorrow eating dinner and fellowshipping.  Since I usually cook a birthday dinner for everyone else in my family, my sister decides she wants me to cook her a birthday dinner.  So, on Christmas Eve, the day before I have to play Santa till 3 am getting my kids things put together and ready for Christmas morning.  She has a birthday dinner here at my house and there were 15 people here and we had a fish fry.

I started working a temp job 2 months ago to try and help make ends meet and prepare for Christmas.  So, because I got my sister 2 other nice gifts for Christmas, I gave her a cheaper gift for her birthday.  I gave her 2 bottles of Oil of Olay body wash with the moisture ribbons.  Money is tight, she knows this.  I also provided a cake, ice cream, and DINNER?!?!?!?!  This ungrateful heffa has the nerve to laugh at my gift and make fun of it!!!!!!!  It hurt my feelings bad.  I tried to no avail to explain my gift to her, but in front of everyone, she dismissed my gift and laughed at it. 

In my memory, she has NEVER given me a birthday gift.  She always says she is broke.  She says she has a child, and money is tight.  SHE IS 26 YEARS OLD, LIVES IN HER GODMOTHER'S BASEMENT FOR $300 A MONTH, AND HAS 1 CHILD!!!!!!!!!!!  Every Christmas, she makes everyone a plate of cookies and says Merry Christmas!  How dare she make fun of my gift?!?!?!?!  I thought she and I had a conversation where she said she really loves this kind of body wash but couldn't afford it.  I explained that to her.  She just laughed me off and said no.

It is not in me to go off and cuss someone out in my house but DAMN!  My heart hurts for how bad she treated me and she acts like nothing is wrong.  She sees nothing wrong with how she treated me.  No one ever does.  I give until I simply can't give any more.  It is strange how so many people can depend on you and act like you are put on this earth only to please/help them, but yet, you are invisible.

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Dec. 25, 2007 at 12:20 AM oh i feel so bad for you. I know how you feel where you feel that you give all you have to give and in the end you feel so empty and unappreciated. Just know in your heart you did good...great! Sometimes, unfortunately, we give our all to people that are selfish and the only fulfillment and appreciation we are going to get in return has to be from our own acknowledgement of it. Keep your head up and don't let her ruin your Christmas.

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Dec. 25, 2007 at 12:30 AM i am so sorry she made you feel so bad.  the nerve to laugh at your gift you gave her... i think that was sweet.  i have used that body wash and loved it!!!  i dont think it shold matter how much you spend on the gift.....you put thought into it.  i'm so sorry she laughed at you like that....merry christmas hon

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Dec. 25, 2007 at 1:35 AM Let her make her own birthday dinner next year. How incredibly rude of her. You should have taken the gift back and taken a LONG hot shower with it.

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Dec. 25, 2007 at 1:52 AM Tiff, you did the best you could do. Its not the point of how much your gift cost, its the thought. you had the dinner @ your house. that' was enough, I think you went an extra step to get that chic something for christmas and her birthday. she's childish and ungrateful...IMO. I know that's your sis, but dang. IF she knows anything about how stressful things can be around christmas by trying to get your kids stuff and taking care of your family, she should know not to be expecting diamonds! Just don't worry about her and trying to please her...Next year, let her do her own birthday dinner like erika said. this chic has lost her mind...Today, just focus on your four kids, and hubby, and don't worry about nothing else! dn't let no one ruin your holiday! have a merry christmas!!!

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Dec. 25, 2007 at 2:12 AM

some people usually the ones you love the most treat you like shit the most.  im sorry your hurting this christmas but if it makes you feel any better so am i.  my relationship of almost 13 years ended so painfully 2 weeks ago.   my kids are getting me through this by looking at their faces   try looking into your kids eyes and know they appreciate you.  if no one else in this world does they do. good luck honey and please feel free to write me.  god bless


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Dec. 25, 2007 at 11:30 AM Merry Christmas Ma!!!  I know how you felt with this one....But you did do everything that you could do! I am with Mrs. Gibbs on this one.  I mean on top of preparing for Christmas at your house, you had a party on Christmas Eve at your house for your sister.  And if she does not understand that...Then charge it...and throw the receipt out.  She will apologize today once she see's her other gifts.  Sometimes as woman we feel as though all we do is give, give give..Do. Do. Do. Give . Give. Give.  And what people don't realize is that all that will make us happy is a hug and or a simple thank you.  Tiffany.  I give you the appreciation right here.  All that you have done for your sister has made my heart job and I appreciate you as a friend that would do all of that for someone you love and care for.  I would die to have a friend and or family member out here in los angeles that would even consider doing that for me...and or me doing for them...All I have out here is my man and his daughter.  All family back home in Texas.  So for your sister, I will say to you thank you for going out of your way to construct such a beautiful party for her.  Thank you for even considering getting her a gift for her birthday even though you got her two gifts for Christmas and you are tight on cash.  I appreciate that you in,  and you will receive your blessing out of it!!  Love you much..Enjoy today.  You deserve it

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Dec. 25, 2007 at 2:03 PM

I don't have any long words of encouragement like the other mommies above, but Honey, don't let her selfishness bump ANY of the blessings that God has in store for you and your family!! Please keep your cool (today too). Just get her a $10 walmart gift card next year. LOL I'm just kidding. I am sure that SOMEONE (be they here on earth or not) told her about herslf and she feels like a dang fool. Pray for her and keep moving forward.


We love you here. I would have loved to get some of that bodywash!! If she didn't want it send it to me!! 

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Dec. 25, 2007 at 3:38 PM I hope that you feel better today!  Some people do not appreciate the people who really care about them and show it.  You did something for you because she is your sister, and she was ungrateful.  I hope that you can shake it off, know YOU did the right thing, and let it be.  Some people are just that way. They expect people to do and be everything to them and for them, with nothing in return.  Somewhere down the line she will realize the error in her way.  Until then, you keep being the sweet and unselfish person that you are, and you will continue to be blessed!  MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

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Dec. 25, 2007 at 4:22 PM

Merry Christmas chick! Sorry that your sister was SO incredably  RUDE!!! unfortunately in today's society alot of people forget about the fact that it's the thought that counts, when it comes to Christmas.  I would definitely tell her about herself in private, and then let her know that from this point on she needs to fund her own parties and don't expect anything else from you since she dosen't like what you buy for her, or appreciates what you do for her! don't let her selfish  and rude act change your heart, or ruin your day!!! 


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Dec. 25, 2007 at 7:23 PM Awe, honey I understand how you feel and I'm sorry she did that to you. It was hurtful. I'd take that body wash any day ( I LOVE it) I hope she realizes how she hurt you and apologizes.  (((((HUGS)))))

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