A Birthparent's Bill of Rights

[adoptingmom2007]

New York–based adoption agency Spence-Chapin has developed a handout
for expectant mothers considering adoption. This excerpt illustrates
accepted best practices in the domestic adoption process.

1. You have the right to be free from pressure to make a decision for
or against adoption.
2. You have the right to total confidentiality, if you so choose.
3. You have the right to impartial counseling by a trained
professional, so you can review all your options.
4. You have the right to choose your baby's adoptive parents.
5. You have the right to a safe and legal process.
6. You have the right to choose an open adoption or ongoing
communication with the adoptive family.
7. You have the right to change your mind about any verbal promise or
written agreement made before the birth of the baby.

[onethentwins]

Dec. 29, 2007 at 12:45 PM

In NY she may have still have the legal right to complete confidenciality, but I don't think it's morally right. Morally she should have the right to confidentiality from every except her adult child. That person should have the legal right to know their mothers name. Whether or not she wants a relationship with that person is something she can negotiate. IMO.

Good Post

[2ndtimewish]

Dec. 29, 2007 at 4:08 PM Very good post!

[Southernroots]

Jan. 6, 2008 at 8:44 PM

"This excerpt illustrates accepted best practices in the domestic adoption process."

I like the idea of this - but, I would say that this is Spence-Chapin's accepted best practices - and not everyone agrees with all of these.  As for total confidentiality, I definitely disagree with this one - and I think you will find that other triad members believe that it is morally wrong to promise a woman anonymity from her child. Besides, with the current trend in open adoptions, it is obvious most birth/first moms do not want or need confidentiality.

 

 

[adoptingmom2007]

Jan. 6, 2008 at 9:26 PM

I agree with you guys - women should not be able to stay confidential from their adult children. 

 

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