Confused...Where do I draw the line?

[amarinemommy03]

Following my divorce this spring, I was hesitant to date not wanting the drama. I had trust issues prior to my marriage, it certainly hasn't helped that my ex-husband had an affair. I just can't fathom setting myself up for the end results again.

Brad was very abusive emotionally, verbally and on a few occasions a little more. Despite my hesitations, I have ventured out. I have been casually dating a few different people. I don't want a long term relationship now. There are two that I have been seeing more frequently. but neither one exclusively.

Jon: We have been friends for years. Good friends. Never really lost touch. I left for the Marine Corps, he moved to France for a time. We exchanged a few letters and cards. Just one of those friends you know will always be there no matter what. I had a thing for him in high school. But the attraction just isn't there now. I don't know why. I used the memory of him as an escape with Brad. A friend to trust and count on. When I found myself upset I pictured him and being able to come back to having a stable friendship. There hasn't ever been anything between us. My best friend and sister-in-law claim that he has always been interested on a different level. Sadly as I look back and currently I see it. I am doing my best not to lead him on.

Casey: We just met in May. This relationship is far more intense. Kind of a FWB type thing. I can't read him to save my life. I made it clear from the get go and he seemed to agree that this isn't a serious thing. We have this insane bond. Something I haven't ever had with anyone. Based on some conversations I wonder if there isn't something brewing on his end. And other times...I don't know. I suppose I wouldn't mind something more with him, however...I don't think I am willing to risk our friendship for a few moments of happiness. I also think that he is the type of friend that we will maintain a close bond regardless of anything happening or not. I know at somepoint this type of relationship will have to end. I am just confused about what he wants and thus it is a little agravating.

As for Jon, I don't know if I romaticized the friendship so much to escape from reality that I am building it up as a disappointment. I really would like the answers to life. LOL...never going to happen. I think I am far better of alone...I don't want to be, but...what can you do?

[amarinemommy03]

Jan. 3, 2008 at 6:44 PM The line...do I just drop them both or how much more clear can I make my intentions or lack there of?

(Original Poster)

[ilovecoffee95]

Jan. 3, 2008 at 6:45 PM I am married but I think I would wait to date seriously. It sounds like Jon is a rock for you and maybe that is all JOn will ever be a great friend,best of luck,Robin

[aves_kay]

Jan. 6, 2008 at 11:34 AM

sorry it took me so long to get on here and read this. when i see you and john at my house i can see that he wants more. i have noticed that you act different when he is around. not in a bad way but you watch you mouth a little more it seems like and there is NOTHING wrong with that. i can see you and john together but than i also picture you with some one more...........vivasious(SP) john doesnt say much he is quiet but that could just be that he is around us and dosent really know us that well.

Casey....i havent met him so i cant really say that much what i can say is that when you talk about him you get a "glow" . i think that you should bring casey over for dinner so that we can see what he is like. he has that 1 habbit that he should get rid of (and its not that bad) other than that i think you should feel things out a bit more.

WE LOVE YOU and i will always be here for you.