When do you know when your marriage is truly over and beyond repair?   Is there a difference between  being in love and just loving someone?   I have way to many questions and NO flippin answers.   I don't wanna be a grown up any longer.   Not only does MY decisions affect me but  I have three great kids that it will affect.   Does anyone have any type of advice.  We do have good days but the bad days seem to be more and worse.  I'll listen to anyone's advice.   Thanks for listening.

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Jan. 9, 2008 at 12:58 PM i struggled with this question for over a year ... finally i realized that if i was thinking about it so much than it must be over. i have 2 wonderful little girls & didnt want to take them away from their father & honestly my last year with him was all about giving him time with them while they are little. there are no easy answers for this but if you ever want to chat feel free to send me a message sometime. good luck!

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Jan. 9, 2008 at 1:32 PM

All I can tell you is that you can't change anybody.  I think a lot of us saw our husband's faults before we got married, but they weren't a big deal then, and they would change once we got married.  That 99.99% never happens.  I still love my husband (soon-2-b ex), but I am no longer in love with him.  I resent him for not being the way I wanted him to be, I discussed it with him numerous times, but what can you do?  You just have to do a lot of soul searching and determine what's best in your situation.  Good luck.

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