Ok...so I am a stay at home mom. Other than one year that I worked when my oldest was 2-3 I have been a stay at home mom for 7.5 years. I have much guilt over this every day. My husband does NOT make me feel that way but I do. I just do. Since I met my husband he's very much been into playing poker. IT's not out of control as far as money goes. IT's his hobby and has been ever since I met him. Over the past year or so he's been playing more and more. Still ok. We've always had an understanding ,...Oh wait...let me abacktrack a bit... without going into full detail...in a nutshell,...I am very nervous and paranoid to stay at home alone at night. I always have been. I've never lived alone and never had to be alone at night. When I met my husband, I had a roomate. After living with my roommate I moved in with him and then we got married. before kids we went and did everything together so I was never alone. After kids...things changed a bit. kids grew up and started school and I could no longer go out with him all the time. so this brings me back to today. we had a few issues with his going out to play cards. It was hard for both of us because I did not like to be home at night bymyself and that is when the boys always played cards. I start to get nervous and ancy around 10:30 and definatly after midnight. sometimes it's not so bad and the time passes quickly and sometimes I am just a nervous wreck.. we've had a few arguments over the subject. He feels like a kid with a curfew not a 34 year old married man. I feel guilty for asking him to come home early when everyone else is staying out later. so my question is... is it ok to ask my husband to not stay out so late?