Do you know that you can put your Significant Other thru TOUCH WITHDRAWAL after you deliver your baby?

[calydu]

Ok, think about it....how many times have you said....

rub my back

feel the baby move

feel how big and heavy my boobs are

help me put my bra on/take off

put your ear on my belly and listen to the baby

hold me so the baby will go to sleep

etc. etc. etc.

They are probably touching you more during the pregnancy than they have for a few years combined!  So then you have the baby.  The labor and deliver is fresh on your mind.  You can't walk, pee, sit, sleep, sneeze, without something hurting, leaking, or spurting out.  You new best friends are breast pads, Dubicaine ointment, your sitz bath/bottle, and Tucks pads.  You are lucky if you get to comb your hair nonetheless wash it.  How many days did you forget to brush your teeth?

When you sit or lay down beside your SO and they touch you..do you yell "you can't be serious?" thinking that they want to have sex?  If they roll over and put their arm over your stomach or spoon against you do you scream OWE THAT HURTS or YOU CAN"T BE SERIOUS again?  You get back in bed after only 2 hours of sleep doing diapers and feedings and you yell when they roll towards you and yell how can you sleep when I am getting up every two hours? etc etc etc

 They have gone cold turkey from your presence.  They will miss the warmth of your skin.  The feel of your bulging belly button and the laughter you made when they rubbed your belly and you said it tickles.  The sound of your voice on what the baby is doing in your belly today.  The smell of your hair even if you didn't get to wash it that day.  The feeling of being needed because you can't see your shoes, nonetheless put them on and tie them.  If you look at them and they have this little whimsical smile on their face...they are probably remembering a moment that you shared.

So, make sure that you keep the connection with your SO even though you are bonding with your new child.  Sometimes a SO gets jealous of the baby....but can you blame them?

[16pregnant]

Mar. 3, 2007 at 3:25 PM I know what you mean, I know my fiance' will be jealous and I hate the thought of him having to be but i have never been through this before either in about 3 and 1/2 months i'll find out!

[gm4]

Mar. 3, 2007 at 3:30 PM You are soo right. Even now, Ava is 7 months old and I find myself sleeping more on the couch than in bed with him. Prob a good thing since I'm expecting again. lol

[CEastep]

Mar. 3, 2007 at 4:00 PM Great post! Thanks!!!

[LuAnnB]

Mar. 3, 2007 at 4:38 PM DH bemoaned the lack of "Daddy" books and information when we had our first.  There have been great improvements in that time but the vast majority of the focus is still on the moms.  Thanks for the reminder that it takes two...;)

[ADIDASMOMOF1]

Mar. 3, 2007 at 6:17 PM

THAT SOUNDS LIKE ME WHEN IT HAPPEND MAN THAT IS SOOO TURE... GOOD POST GIRLY!!

 

ADIDASMOM

[smksgrl]

Mar. 3, 2007 at 7:05 PM

That is so true!!

[EscobedobyzMom]

Mar. 4, 2007 at 12:15 AM

You always have such deep posts and they are so true and touching.

 

[Mama2Cailleigh]

Mar. 4, 2007 at 1:54 PM Man I want to cry now. I had to force Matt to be involved in the pregnancy and now he really doesn't help much still. I really wish I could feel guilty for being that post but instead I get to be heartbroken that I am not.

[1974gail]

Mar. 4, 2007 at 1:57 PM Very true!!

[TraceE]

Mar. 4, 2007 at 11:17 PM

I could not agree with this more. I am currently trying to reconnect with my husband. It is not going so good. I find myself mad when he is not  in the mood but how can I blame him. I had no sex drive throughout my pregnancy and it is just now returning almost 8 months later. The poor guy I haven't wanted him to touch, kiss, or hold me for about a year and all of a sudden I'm like we never cuddle why don't you cuddle with me when we sleep. He said he has just gotten used to sleeping on his side with pillows between us. I threw the extra pillows off the bed last night. No more from now on we are going to cuddle. We may not get much sleep for a while but I'm sure I remember some things we can do. Thanks for this. I thought there was something wrong with me.