Does your child compare themselves with others?

[zenimcruz]

Okay, I have this problem with my child.  She loves to always compare herself with others especially her friends.  She is loved by many and very popular I might add...they all want her as a friend.  She has friends of all ages.  She gets along with so many from her sisters friends to her brothers friends….and they can’t stand it, lol….My oldest and her went to the same school (private) and she hooked in with my oldest friends and then in kinder at another school w/my son, she got along with all the older children there too (my son’s class level).  She’s outgoing and gets along with everyone but she feels that she’s different.  She always compares herself with others and can’t see why she can’t be like them.  I ask her, “Why do u want to be like other people when so many like u already the way you are?”…She always says that it’s not fair that they have cell phones and she doesn’t, lol…….they go “here and there” (figure of speech) and she doesn’t……they get to sit in the front seat in the car and she doesn’t……,lol…lol…lol…I mean this daughter of mine will just find anything to compare herself with other people.  Why is that...when so many love her the way she is?

[joaniedanger]

Jan. 14, 2008 at 7:12 PM i don't know for sure, but I think they do it as part of establishing a relationship to the world.  For example reasoning like "...person x has this and person y has this other thing.. If I relate to person x, yet do not have what she has am i a person x or y?"  does that make sense?  i'm trying to think like a kid here so if it makes no sense, well we're back at square 1.   LOL