Ever heard of post marital depression

[maimutsa]

 Hie cafemoms. I need a little help from you guys. Here it is. In may 2007 i got engaged to my husband and we formally got married on the 22nd of december which means i have been officially married for about 24 days. The ceremony was beautiful and i was very happy and i really do love my husband. Problem is i have been absolutely depressed and unhappy for the last 24 days!!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I cant really talk to anyone about it coz well its corny for a new bride to be unhappy. At first i thought it was because i missed my son since i dont live with him but i dont know anymore coz even when my son Jared  who's three is around i still am very weepy. I mean i've heard of postpartum blues ( which i never had) but post wedding blues are new to me. Have other cafe moms had this?  How did u guys cope? I am so miserable. My poor husband is being so sweet and romantic and he cant keep his hands off me but i just pretend to be happy. Help coz i think he has caught on and keeps asking if i'm okay.PLEASE HELLLLP!!!!

[clownsforkids]

Jan. 16, 2008 at 10:58 AM Yeah, be real with yourself. The ?'s you ask you already know why your not happy, so now you need to be honest with him. We can't answer these ?'s for you, because only you know the answers. I believe you do, and you know you do, so be a woman and tell that man the truth.

[ChattyWifePlus2]

Jan. 16, 2008 at 11:02 AM It's fairly common. You spend so much energy in planning a wedding and your emotions are sky high. It's natural to feel a low after all of that excitement.
Being away from your son certainly adds to what you are going through at the moment, even if you are weepy when he's there.
Try to take a few minutes every day to plan something special for yourself, husband or your son. Just leaving a note in his wallet, telling how much you love him... taking a few minutes to pamper yourself, working on a photo album for your son or giving him a call. Count your blessings and enjoy doing things for others... If the depression gets worse see a doctor.

[tricassica]

Jan. 16, 2008 at 11:03 AM I think maybe you are just a little let down after all the excitement. The wedding takes lots of planning and there's this great big build up, then one day and it's all over. Plus any kind of change is stressful, even good change. Maybe start making plans for something else exciting coming up in your life - a trip, a new job, even just remodeling a room in your house. Then give your new hubby a hug and remember the best part of your life is ahead of you, not behind you! Good luck.

[maimutsa]

Jan. 16, 2008 at 12:45 PM well clownsforkids u could have a point in that i need to tell him. But he is just so over the moon that he will be so heartbroken. I have an issue though that iam so scared of failure. I fear that i will not be a good wife. I'm scared of failure and each day i live in fear of being unable to make my husband happy. He always says the sweetest things but i feel so overwhelmed. I feel like a little girl trying to play house and not actually being good at it!!!Marriage is a big DEAL!! I feel like im not doing okay i mean how do u make the best meals like what u see on tv? I'm a beans on toast for supper girl and trying to make meals varied and intresting seems a bit .... i dont know. I feel like being a good wife is way out of my league. tricassica and chattywifeplus2 thanks for suggestions

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