More Acceptance

[Princess223]

More Acceptance

With black/white children in my experiences, black families are more accepting of the children than whites, why do you think this is?

[older]

Jan. 16, 2008 at 11:48 AM I have never really noticed this, to me children are children no matter what the color.

[Teri_Lea]

Jan. 17, 2008 at 4:55 PM I don't know either.  I have not witnessed this first hand, but my fiances brother totally dis-owned his daughter when she fell in love with a black man. He has never seen his grandchildren because of this reason. I cant even begin to understand this. What does it matter? And how could a parent dis-own a child for any reason?  Race, to me, means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!!!! Its like someone saying to me they don't like me because I am short.  IT MAKES NO SENSE AT ALL!!!!!

[MamiJaAyla]

Jan. 25, 2008 at 7:11 PM Yes and no.  Black families tend to run the gamut in colors so they can be more accepting of the children especially since most of the time you can tell that they are at least part black.  Not necessarily so of the parent, depends on the family.   BUT for those children that LOOK COMPLETELY white that does not happen so easily, in MY experience.

[jcsinger]

Feb. 20, 2008 at 9:02 PM Unfortunately I have seen this happen.  I have a girlfriend in an Interracial marriage.  She's black and he is white. They have 4 beautiful children.  I witnessed first hand how his family treats their children one year when I spent the holidays with my friend and her in-laws.  The grandchildren of the white couples were spoiled and openly treated better then the bi-racial grandchildren.  I was surprised at some of the comments and actions made right in front of the children. In fact, the white grandchildren knew they were being treated better and responded to their bi-racial cousins as if they were superior to them.  At that time all of the children were under the age of eight and that was a few years ago.  I would hate to see what it is like now that they are all older.  I do know that my girlfriend's husband has stuck by his wife and kids, do not take them around his family too much.  He wants to protect his children from feeling inferior to their cousins. Her family has always accepted the relationship.  They have been together since they were twelve and are now in their mid-thirties.  Having been knowing each other so long you would think that that would give both families a lot of year to prepare for the interracial relationship.  You would think???????

[SylviaNCali]

Feb. 25, 2008 at 1:48 AM I haven't noticed personally. I think that it depends on the family. But society for a long time has tried to follow the one drop rule so maybe Blacks are more likely to see Biracial kids as blacks because of that reason.

[nyteowl]

Feb. 25, 2008 at 2:03 AM I think it depends on the family.  To say this about whites being less accepting and to categorize all whites in this would be wrong.  I would have to disagree.  I know our family is not like this and we know lots other white families that have the same feelings.  My sister married an awesome man from Kenya and they just had their first baby.  Girl mind you and my niece is so loved and wanted from EVERYONE in our family.  In our family we do not see color.  We only see LOVE.  This is how we are raising our kids and instilling morals in them.  If one of my sons brought home another girl from a diffrent race I would be happy that they are happy.  If they had kids together I would spoil those babies as much as a grandma could...Thank GOD that is a ways off mind you.  Color is no issue here.  So not all white people are like this.  There are alot of people out there like my family that are just as much accepting and loving!

[brightlady]

Apr. 7, 2008 at 3:32 PM I notice it some timesn personally i think it is just theparent not wanting the connection and like i said it is the parent.

[jlns1975]

Apr. 15, 2008 at 6:55 PM It probably has something to do with the past and how parents and children wer seperated and sold off. Others looked after the kids (kin folk) and accepted everyone as family regradless.

[elijahsmama710]

May. 19, 2008 at 10:12 PM

I don't know, I think it might depend on how the child looks. Since most black/white children look more black, maybe that's why the white families are less accepting.

My son who is white black and mexican could pass as just plain mexican, and his dad's side of the family sometimes comments that he "needs some color" "is too damn white" but they say it playfully and I don't take offense. We're all pretty comfortable with eachother. And again in my experience my family is totally accepting of him and they're the white side. Well, at first my dad and a few of my older siblings had a hard time accepting me or him but that wasn't because of race that was because I had him at 17 and "ruined my life"... but that's another story-)

[Jamaicandmc]

Jun. 19, 2008 at 2:59 PM Here's what I think. Many blacks have long since idealized everything white. Some even bleach their skins to become as ligt as possible. Read, Langston Hughe's, "The Negro Artist and the Racial Mountain." He talk intimately about the urge within our race towards whiteness. We have a sense that anything light is better, even when we watch TV, they're no truly dark faces on TV, only light ones. Because of slavery, black have some self hatred. It's been pushed down our throats for centuries, "Hate yourself, your'e ugly, your'e inferior." Check out What brother Malcolm says. To paraphrase him, 'they've convinced us that we're inferior for so long that we've come to believe it." But whites still have a sense of entitlement. They believe that they are superior and that a mixture of white and black has a negative impact on their family name and their status in society. If  you think you're better than another group, then why would you want that group to be a part of your family. That's just my observation, again, this isn't true of everyone.