What am I doing wrong with my children? They do not understand the words "no", "stop". What is the trick? I was trying to take a college test online the other night and out of 20 questions I got 9 right. The last 9, because while trying to take the test I had 2 kids running around the house fighting and screaming at each other and then they would come in by me crying and I was slowly losing it. It took me freaking out and throwing my book before they stopped. Why do they not give you a handbook on these little monsters. I think I need a visit from Super Nanny!!

 

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BusyM...
Jan. 17, 2008 at 2:00 PM

maybe instead of always saying "no" or "stop" , trying telling them what to do in a positive.... for example " we walk in the house, we run outside". Or "it's night time, so we use quiet voices, we can yell and play later".   sometimes kids tune out Nos and stops because they hear them all day long. Also, even though you are busy, try taking a deep breath, and in a calm voice, kneel down to their level, look them in the eye and tell them what you expect of them at that moment.

I hope you find something that works!

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temage
Jan. 18, 2008 at 5:29 PM busymama had some good ideas, but they don't always work. I know how you feel, my kids are the same way. they don't listen until I get mad & yell at them. I can talk til I'm blue in the face and they don't listen to a bit of it. I lose my temper & yell at them, and they're all ears. and tears. then comes the guilt cuz you hurt their feelings. my girls are 6 & 9, and they seem to think they can do whatever they want. despite being told there are rules and boundaries. good luck!

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deb927
Oct. 9, 2008 at 10:09 AM

hey. i had the same problem my kids were out  of control. i gotprofessional help and this is wha tthey told me. there HAVE to be consequences for thier actions. make a list of rules and consequences for each child who breaks those rules. post it on the fridge im serious. make rule number one respect yourself and others. the trick is u have to stick to the rules and consequences every time. make consequences something that woould bother them not to have. and the reson for posting the rules, is that way nobody can say they didnt know. read it to all of them too. let me know how it goes and letme know if u need help! my kids arent perfect,but its a damn sight better now than it used to be around here!

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