Spanking

[NoUdderMilk]

Research is literally at your finger tips yet so many parents ignore it.

The AAP has countless articles pertaining to the matter. Click here and here

I have endless links but I feel more of you will find them to be more credible.

I think research is the best tool a parent can use in raising a healthy/happy child.

I don't think anyone can show me one study proving spanking to be effective by a credible source

All it teaches is it's okay to hit, and it's okay to be hit by those you love

What a wonderful message to teach your children.

I often get the "why do you care it isn't your child, it isn't your choice"

I care because YOUR children are going to effect my children. The way you raise YOUR children will effect my children.

If an adult strikes another adult (look up definitions for strike/hit/spank they all coincide) it is assault yet if an adult strikes a child its okay? Its just a spanking? That doesn't even make sense.

Spanking as a last resort? Please. Let me hit you because all the information hasn't sunk in it's my last resort. Psh!

 

You know when your children no longer fear you your chances of having an out of control youth will be great.

[mamide0204]

Jan. 17, 2008 at 5:00 PM I spank my kids only if they didn't listen to me, after 5 min.!!! Then if they ask me why I spanked them, I tell them that I'm their mommy and they didn't listen to me and that is the consequent. Hey I was raised by my fathers hand I 'm glad because it made me who I am and I'm not dis-respectable to anybody!!!

[NoUdderMilk]

Jan. 17, 2008 at 5:05 PM You dont have to hit others for respect

(Original Poster)

[TalyzinRoze]

Jan. 17, 2008 at 5:10 PM

We spanked when our daughter was younger. Or maybe I should say, we tried.  She was, and still is, a strong-willed child, so spanking didn't work.  We haven't spanked her since she was 5.  Instead, we tell her why what she is doing is wrong and what the consequences are if she continues on that track.  And if necessary, she is grounded. And yes, she is a healthy teenager, who is still strong-willed. She also respects others and that didn't get instilled into her by spanking.  We taught her by example.

[mamide0204]

Jan. 17, 2008 at 5:17 PM I didn't say anything about hitting others for respect. I respect people and speak to them as I would like to be spoken . That's all!

[NoUdderMilk]

Jan. 17, 2008 at 5:35 PM

Quoting mamide0305

"Hey I was raised by my fathers hand I 'm glad because it made me who I am and I'm not dis-respectable to anybody!!! "

 

You pretty much implied you have to hit your children for them to be respectful

(Original Poster)

[patticakez]

Jan. 17, 2008 at 5:39 PM

mamide0204

basically you are teaching your children to fear you. i was spanked twice by my father and i was so scared of him that i would hide. he realized why i hid from him because i was scared. then he just did this stance and lowered his head and voice when i did something wrong and it was more effective. you don't have to hit your child to teach them right from wrong or how to listen to you. there are plenty other alternatives if you would allow me to share them with you.

 

[mamide0204]

Jan. 17, 2008 at 8:51 PM Damn people, I'm not beating the shit out of them! It's called spanking. Get over it.