Daddy is evil now

[Tisha1115]

 This is what I heard from my DD this morning on the drive to school. He isn't letting her eat until after she finishes her homework, no matter how late it gets (I'm talking 9 pm at times). With further questioning I learned it isn't that way when at his girlfriends house. It's like he doesn't care anymore and is turning into an ass now that she's older.

   Yesterday he told me she was behind in her school work and has been keeping contact with her teacher (via her home phone). I went in this morning to clarify the situation and her teacher looked at me like I was nuts. I even asked her math and spelling teacher's and they both said she's doing fine. She was on Honor Roll last quarter and was told (by her teacher) that she is again. I thanked all the teachers and left pissed, yet gloating that I knew the truth (he lies to me all the time).

  Another thing is she is signed up for Tae Kwon Do and he isn't taking her (because he says she's behind at school). Her whole class was tested and moved up to yellow belt green stripe. I had asked him when her test was and he said there wasn't one. She said it was over Christmas break, I believe her since that how it was before.

  I don't know what to do,. If I confront him he gets pissed at me and starts yelling and saying she must be lying. If I say nothing I feel horrible that I don't do anything. Do I tell him that I talked to her teacher's and they don't know where he is coming from or just wait it out until he brings it up again? Please give me advice, and no I can't afford a lawyer at this time so I am stuck with joint custody for a while. BTW, she's only 9 yrs old and having to deal with all this.

 *UPDATE*

Ok, I have an update for you all. I talked to her dad right before my first class (that way he would know I don't have time for a fight and he was probably at his girlfriends). I told him I had talked to all of her teachers and they said she was all caught up and doing fine. He said he would back off of her, but sounded dismissive as if he didn't want to sound like a complete ass at the time. I also said she was upset about missing the Tae Kwan Do test and that she knew the dates so he should have as well. he said he would start to make sure she goes (I plan on calling Master Taylor to let me know when she doesn't show up and to call me when anything important is coming up).

  I didn't bring up the food thing, since I just did that last week and had to stop the argument before he got out of control. That's why we're divorced and I hope he never gets that way with his current GF. She seems really nice and my DD loves her, bonus is she's a third grade teacher.

[texmoma]

Jan. 18, 2008 at 7:43 AM I think you did the right thing about bringing up you had spoken to her teachers.And yes bless her heart , your little girl ,my ex-SIL treats my niece like this just to try and get my brother back.keep strong.*HUGS*

[paisley716]

Jan. 18, 2008 at 8:23 AM Maybe the new g/f will help him become a better dad. I have heard of that happening!! I know what you are going through, my sons dad does stupid shit like that too, not feeding him. In his case the new (now ex) wife was stupid and just thought I was a bitch because I wanted him to quit drinking around my son and start acting like a decent parent. Now, she (accidentallyso she says) had 2 kids of her own with the idiot and calls me crying about how he wont pay for anything, cancels all his visitations if something better to do comes along, and quit his job causing all the kids to lose their insurance!! I told her if he already had 2kids with 2 different mommies that he was already not taking care of, why did you think your kids would be so special and he would do better for them? You spent all that time bashing both previous mommies and now have the nerve to call me crying. I guess sometimes fate does make it all the way around!!!