MY STEP SON LIVES WITH US, AND SEE'S HIS MOTHER EVERY OTHER WEEK-END. HE IS WITH ME MOST OF THE TIME. I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO REALLY GOES BEHIND HIM TO SEE THAT HE FOLLOWS THROUGH WITH WHAT HE WAS TOLD TO DO.  MOST OF THE TIME HE DOES NOT. IF YOU ASK IF HE HAD DONE AS ASKED HE WILL LIE TO MY FACE AND SAY YES. NOW TO PUNISH HIM ENDS UP FALLING SHORT BECAUSE HIS FATNER FORGETS OR AT HIS GRANDPARENTS THEYDONT ENFORCE IT AND HIS MOTHER JUST PLANE OUT DOES NOT CARE IF RESPECTS ME AT ALL. NOW ITS TO THE POINT WHERE HE IS MOCKING ME AS HE WALKS AWAY BACK TALKS ME INFRONT OF HIS FATHER AND ABSOLUTLY NEVER DOES HIS CHORES AS I ASK HIM TO.....NOW AGAIN I AM THE ONE WHO CARES FOR HIM MOST OF THE TIME AND BUYS THE THINGS HE NEEDS AND SO FORTH. AND I FEEL THAT IF HIS PARENTS CANT GET THEIR ACT TO GETHER AND HELP WITH SOME OF THE DISSIPLINING OF HIM IT WILL GET MUCH WORSE.BUT I FEEL I AM ON MY OWN

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tigge...
Jan. 19, 2008 at 11:03 AM

I'm glad he has someone who loves him.  He may not appreciate you right now but he will.  Keep loving him, he needs you!

 

Lisa 

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1beau...
Jan. 19, 2008 at 11:24 AM I'm having the same problem but not to such an extreme. My stepson doesn't verbally mock me but I feel like if I set a punishent that it's never enforced. To be honest, I don't care if it's enforced in someone else's home but in mine that's a different story. I can't convince my hubby that at 17, his son should be picking up after himself and being more responsible. I shouldn't have to repeat myself over and over. Nothing is ever serious enough for him unless it just affects him. Hubby pretends to be clueless and stepson remains the priority #1at least that how it feels. I feel like he knows this and he plays both sides. If his father does by some freak of nature side with me he wants to go to his mom as if I'm going to let her run her house and mine.

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jenz450
Jan. 19, 2008 at 12:06 PM Well , you seem to be ON YOUR OWN with this one...Put your foot down because your kids will feed off of what he gets away with...All your work will be DOWN THE TUBES if he is not respecting you in your home...Think about it, if your the only one on top of him, make sure YOU ARE HEARD LOUD AN CLEAR...

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