Stressed, need to just stop worrying

[sherigraph]

Ya know? I need to just let it go. Stop worrying about whether my son will graduate or not. Stop worrying about whether his assignments are actually turned in or not. Stop worrying about whether he is actually doing the things that I ask of him or not. Even though I say all that, I just CAN'T seem to do it. I keep checking his grades online, I keep asking him to make sure to check with teachers to see what is done and what isn't so he can catch up. Each day, I hear the same thing. I handed them in, they just haven't posted or updated them yet. You know? It is all deja vu again. Last quarter, last year, I would hear the same thing. Then, grades come out, or updates, and still looked the same. 0's. He says, Mom, I did it this time. I still see 0's. Do I trust him or not? I don't want him to NOT graduate. This is his senior year. He is ADD, on Adderall XR. last year it seemed to work, but not so sure this time. May have to get him back in or talk to the doctor about upping the dose. So frustrating. WEll, today this is how it is going to be, Either he talks to the teacher, gets them to update the grades online so I can see them, or he gets a note from each teacher saying, Yes, I have them, I am grading them and I will post them. If not, he WON'T be going anywhere except for work. Ok, love this journaling, although it really doesn't make me any less stressed than I was before. Or it isn't going to keep me from worrying. I know I should just pray and ask God to take my burden, but just not sure how much that will really work or keep me from thinking about it all.

[marshcat]

Nov. 29, 2006 at 8:33 AM It's easier said than done. I have been there, done that. In fact, I am still doing it. Good luck! I worry all the time about my son because I know he has the intelligence. He's in 8th grade and his teacher wants to have him do 11th grade work. However, the teacher hasn't started it yet. Currently, my son is just bored with the work the teacher does give him. He just doesn't do it. I keep telling him to jsut do it and that he has to do it. Sometimes he listens and other times not. Like I said, good luck with everything!

[ryakpa]

Nov. 29, 2006 at 8:43 AM My son is a junior this year... We have always had the same problems. He doesn't fail classes, but rarely does his work... Last summer, our Youth Group went to Hico, WV for a missions trip, and he met a girl... I hate to admit it, but because of the relationship with her, he has really come around. He is almost a different kid. His attitude is better, his grades are better, the assignments are being turned in - it is great. Boys are so different than girls, I know that my younger brother was the same way - until he went to college... then he did very well, but until then, my poor mother really struggled with raising him. I dont' know if this will help or not, just some of my random thoughts... Good luck and God Bless!!!

[suzanneauthor]

Nov. 29, 2006 at 8:49 AM

Sherri, my oldest son graduated by the skin of his teeth, what you may want to do, if you want to find out how he is doing, is go and talk with his counselor at the school. It sure helped me out, and we found out, how he stood and what he needed to do. Just a suggestiion... Good luck!

[emptynester]

Nov. 29, 2006 at 5:14 PM My step son battled that and we had his meds changed to Stratera and it has been amazing! Just as effective, if not better than the other drugs they used on him! He is better able to focus and this year he is doing really great and getting his work done. You might check it out!  It did wonders for all of us.

[sherigraph]

Nov. 30, 2006 at 8:11 AM Emtynester, actually, that was the first thing he was put on back in 8th grade and then tried again in 9th. Both times I took him off of it. It didn't do much for him and it just made him very very irritable and moody. Right now, I am trying to stay on him to get these 0's check out and handed in. Thanks again.

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[momwifefriendme]

Dec. 10, 2006 at 12:13 AM

I totally know where your coming from .  My 5th grader she seems to tell me all the time shes doing the work , i go online and there is 0s and she doesnt seem to know why till i get letters from the teacher that they had to start emailing me cause she was throwing away the letters being sent home.

hard to sleep some nights..

so i do like you did i journal or blog to get it out and then i try to speak with her ..

[sherigraph]

Dec. 10, 2006 at 11:16 PM We got a progress report in the mail, and my husband got that. So Thursday evening we had a discussion with our son. See, my husband hasn't really talked to him to see how things are going. I told him before talking to our son that we need to remember to just talk. Yelling and getting angry makes it worse. It was a really good conversation. So, hopefully things will get better.

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