When your friends stay friends with your ex...

[Mamilinda76]

My ex-husband and I have been divorced for many years now.  He pays child support but he doesn't see his kids.  My best friend considers herself his best friend as well, even though she spends more time with me and I have constantly been there for her through thick and thin.  My other girlfriends are who have been my friends for a longer period of time have gotten into the habit over the years to hang out with my ex, even though all they do is party and has never been there for them the way I have.

 They know that I have an issue with him because he never sees his kids and just abandoned him and now he's having another and they are spending time with him and her partying all the time and acting like this is ok.  I had brought up the issue to them before and it seems that it went in one ear and out the other so I just ended up keeoing my distance from all of them.  I feel like I can't trust them anymore and that anything I say will be relayed to him whether or not it's about my ex, everyday problems or anything in general. 

Since her and I are both expecting my best friend is always telling me how she's doing and I listen to her politely but I could care less. Let's face it he is acting the same way he did when I was pregnant..leaving her to party with other girls, treating her like dirt and who knows what else. I don't know if they expect me to be happy about the fact that he's having another child when he doesn't see his own.  He could have 20 kids for all I care but how am I suppose to tell my children that their father is not capable to see them but is willing to have another child and raise that child when he wouldn't do it for them.

From what I've heard he has changed and may never change and in fact I feel sorry for his girlfriend who thinks he will be a better father to her child than what he was with mine.  But, what bothers me is that these "so called friends" of mine value loyalty to someone who the only thing he has done for them is party with me. Is this fair?