Just thought I would write a little post expressing my feelings...I feel sick to my stomach, my heart aches, I don't want to let go!

My daughter is a senior and we thought she would be going to school here where we live, but things changed (classes won't transfer later, etc.) and now she will be going further away and living in the dorms, and I am feel like I am falling apart! We are very close, with her being our only child, and we are dependant on each other for so much...we have become more friends in the past year and constantly talk about everything. I know that things have to change, but I know that our relationship will never be what it is now and that really hurts me. I haven't let her see me cry. I don't want her to feel bad or feel afraid to leave home. I just want to scream at the top of my lungs!!!

Are there any other mom's who had to watch their only baby leave? How did you cope?


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Jan. 30, 2008 at 9:12 PM

I had four girls.  Three have left the nest for good. The last one left but came home 6 months later to live here again. So my period of time where I mourned no children in the house didn't last long at all.

I did though take on a baby and watched a baby boy for that period of time. It was only part time but it did fulfill the nesting urges I was having. 

Today, I have three grandchildren. Two who I see almost every day along with thier moms. I think I am busier now then I ever have been in my life.

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Jan. 30, 2008 at 9:16 PM I have a disability which prevents any further nesting urges, so that won't help me (haha), but thanks for the advice! I'm sure my sisters would love to send me their little ones though!

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Jan. 30, 2008 at 9:50 PM

  Feeling Devastated right now is only normal- I think I was much worse a few months before my Baby graduated, All I could think about was her being in college 800 miles away from me! After she was there and I knew she was Happy and adjusting I started feeling better too- She will be graduating 4 years of college in June! Don't Worry about your relationship changing, it just changes in a different way- My daughter still comes home atleast once a month or I go there and somedays she calls me 3 or 4 times!LOL They will Always Need Us and Miss Home- I know how you feel & I know it's hard to think about but you will make it through this, I Promise! Sometimes, it's funny- We do our best to give them Wings To Fly- and then when their ready we want to take them away & Send them back to Kindergarten! Wishing you the Best! Take Care-

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Jan. 30, 2008 at 9:56 PM

Thanks so much Daisy! The wing thing is true!! I am sure I will be a basket case at graduation and then dropping her off at her new home....I am used to her calling me for no reason at least ten times a day, and her clothes all over the place, etc.

I just worry about her...being my only...she has had a rough couple of years...she is a rape survivor and has beaten the bipolar odds. I think all of that makes my fears and worry work overtime.

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Apr. 22, 2010 at 7:56 PM

Finally I find some mom's in the same boat. My only child,my son, will be heading off in late June. He will be 4 hours away. I want to follow him and re-locate as his college is in a wonderful location and the location or situation I am currently in are not ideal...

I will take baby steps and take them one step at a time and see what happens....because I know that when one door closes another one opens.

He is currently away on a school function and has been gone for 3 days and we have not spoken...we have NEVER gone more than one night apart...ever. I have not left the house except to walk the dogs...I know when he goes off to college it will be much worse...I am so sad already....

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Aug. 18, 2013 at 10:39 AM My son (my only child ) is leaving for College today just like you I wanted him to go to school in our home town but he decided to go to school in Arizona and we live in Texas .I didn't agree with it at first but I didn't want to hold him back .This morning I woke up with a ball of emotion in the pit of my stomach I can't help but to wonder is he going to be ok ,I really don't want to see him go its really hard for me being that I never been away from him but I know he's has to grow up .

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Sep. 8, 2013 at 12:08 AM

My only child, Rachel, left the nest on August 22, 2013.  At first I was ok..I felt sad, cried, etc.  Now Im feeling pure depression.  I feel lost and confused and dont know who I am anymore.  Im studying to take the LSAT in Dec to attend law school.  This empty next syndrome is keeping me from focusing.  I just feel lost.toddler tantrum

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