To make the story a little bit shorter, I will give you the details that lead to this post.  I was sexually harrassed for 23 years by my brother.  I only began telling others when I made myself take much needed therapy at the age of 20.  The abuse started at 11.

I just found out that out of the approximately 1700 online schools he picks the exact same one I am in, and even picks the same major!!!!!  I have successfully kicked him out of my and my children's lives just this past year.  Then he shows up there?!

He was married and I was engaged, he offered to take care of me if I wasn't getting enough!! This is when I was 19!  This kind of garbage continued for many years after this.  I told my Mother when it started, she told Dad, they 'talked' to him and that was all that was ever mentioned.  For my Dad's benefit, I must say, that my Mother hid it so well, from him, he actually did not know of the years that followed.  I was too ashamed and wounded to tell him again.

Now, I find him in class with me!!!!  I am furious and so angry, I am glad he doesn't live where I live.  I would not be able to control myself.  I would find him and he would be bleeding when I was done!

He came to my turf now.  I am letting the administrator of my school know just who and what he is.  He has not seen what I am fully capable of.  I told him if he came into my life again, everything that was never done before, would be now. For the little girl that still does not rest (in my head while I 'sleep'), I will take care of him this time.

Thank you for all the times you have listened and responded.  Just knowing that their are women out there, who are willing to listen, hold, and encourage makes it easier to get through the 'bad' days.

Thank you again.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 12:40 AM wow. just breath & let it all out. I don't know what to say. um...i'm really happy you're confronting this problem now when you can control things.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 3:20 AM OMG I am so sorry this happened to you and especially for that long. I am so happy you are standing up for yourself and I think going to the administrator at your school is the best idea. It sounds like to me that he is doing this on purpose just so he can be around you. Also I just had to say be carefull  when you leave school and watch your surroundings very close for him! Not trying to scare you because I know you could handle yourself but just an idea for you to do. Good Luck I hope they make him leave the school. If you ever need to talk I am here!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 2:31 PM

as the others said WOW!

so sorry you had to go through this

you sound strong and ready to HIT this problem head on i wish you the best

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 10:44 PM Oh Diane! I am praying for you! I am so Angery that he would do this to you. Why can't he just leave you alone? I am praying my dear, dear friend.........

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