Omg, I never knew it could hurt this bad! We haven't even been married a year and he already wants to separate. I didn't think things could get worse but then I find out he's already promising other girls his heart and we are not even separated yet. He feels trapped in our marriage and wants his freedom but I don't want to let my marriage go. I said my vows and meant them. I know we were young and should have waited but I can't change the past I can only move on to the future. I just wish he would consider counceling before giving up. I wanted my daughter to have both parents together forever. My dad walked out of my life around 11 and now my husband is doing the same. I must really be a horrible person and I guess I deserve this for being so stupid. I hope my daughter is'nt ashamed of me when she gets older. I pray that no one else ever has to go through this but unfortunately I'm probably not the only one this has happened to.

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lafogosa
Feb. 1, 2008 at 3:52 PM

Sending you lots of positive thoughts and prayers. I'm sorry that you have to feel such pain.  I think that your daughter may be more ashamed if you don't fight to make your life and hers the best it can possibly be, with or without him.

 Blessings...

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nicho...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:26 PM i am so sorry to hear this. I kinda don't know what to tell you but this one thing you can't make someone love you. if you have to be on your own your daughter when she get older will understand. your situation really make me want to cry because i understand what you mean you don't want to give your child the same life you had with not having a dad!

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jvict...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 11:21 PM Hi I just wanted to leave you a comment. I'm telling you this from experience my mother and father divorced when I was three months old. I never knew what it was like to have a father figure being that he was never really involved in my life. The positive side to this is my mother raised me and did the best she could and I also had two very involved grandmothers(who basically looked at me like a daughter instead of a granddaughter) That being said I am now a single mother and I know the feeling of wanting to give my daughter the life I never had. Sweetheart just know that life is not easy for anyone and when your in the midst of hurt or pain it feels like you can't move on. But you will learn just as I have that its not about you anymore its about that precious baby girl who depends on you. You are more than capable of raising her and providing her with a wonderful life just have faith in God and always remember the pain you went through to get her here. Best wishes and God Bless

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smcelroy
Feb. 6, 2008 at 10:49 AM Hey girl.... Well my hubby and I did go through this during the first entire year of our relationship. It's hard!!! I was the one that left him... but I came back. So here are my thoughts : Why would you stay with a man that is talking like that to other women? What makes you think talking is all that he is doing? Why let yourself be disrespected as a wife, women, mother and friend by anyone? Look all I know is that you can raise your mini you on your own and be a wonderful parent. I think that it would be worse to be with someone and teach your daughter that its okay to be abused (emotionally and mentally) than be by yourself. And another thing IT"S NOT YOUR FAULT and don't let him make you think that! That's called manipulation and he is trying to turn it around so you feel like the bad guy when in reality he is the one that is doing the wrong thing. Stand up for yourself, believe in yourself, and don't let him push you around. If you want this your marriage to work then you both have to work on it, not just you. Good luck girl and I'm here for you to talk to !!!

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Yllir...
Feb. 12, 2008 at 12:54 PM My husband is in the navy. And before he left we werent considering seperation. We were considering divorce. We married due to family pressures. I was pregnant and my gma is really old fashioned. We put together a wedding four weeks after we told our families that I was pregnant. It was not a good start to our marriage. We fought constantly and majority of those days we both wanted out. Now that we have had some time apart we realize that the things we were fighting over arent that important and that our relationship is more important to us than we ever realized. Hopefully time away from each other would do you some good. I know it has been a blessing for us. He has matured so much. You know, when women are pregnant they have to mature over those 9 months because they cant be immature when it comes to raising a child. Men dont mature as fast because they arent going throught the same things that we are. I hope you work things out. My parents were married for 17 years seperated for 16 1/2. Its crazy. I didnt really know my father until i was 8 and moved out of my moms to move to his house. I wish I could have grown up knowing my both of my parents. But even so I still turned out okay. If you love each other, things will work themselves out you just have to be patient and ride those rough waves together.

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