NO, I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT THE FUN FAMILY GAMES WE MIGHT PLAY AT A PICNIC, I WAS REMINDED OF THESE PARTICULAR GAMES BY ONE OF MY FRIENDS, I AM SURE YOU ALL KNOW WHO I AM TALKING ABOUT, THE LADY WITH THE DAILY SPARKLE.  SHE HAPPENED TO WRITE HER SPARKLE TODAY ON THE MIND GAMES, AND TRICK QUESTIONS OUR FAMILY SOMETIMES PUT US THROUGH AND HOW WE SOMETIMES FAIL THESE TEST WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING WE ARE BEING TESTED.  SHE WAS MY INSPIRATION FOR THIS POST!

ONE OF THE REASONS I STILL HAVE MY BEST FRIEND OF ABOUT 40 YEARS, FROM WAY BACK IN GRADE SCHOOL, IT IS BECAUSE WE HAVE NEVER PLAYED ANY GAMES WITH EACH OTHER, WE DON'T GET UPSET IF WE DON'T HEAR FROM EACH OTHER ON A DAILY BASIS AND WE FORGIVE EACH  OTHER IF WE SOMEHOW MISS A SPECIAL DAY, WE NEED NO SPECIAL INVITATION TO COME OVER, AND WE HAVE BEEN USING OUR MINDS TO CALL ON EACH OTHER WHEN WE NEED TO.  SHE WOULD CALL ME ON THE PHONE JUST AS I ANSWER IT AND TELL HER "YOU HEARD MY CALL DIDN'T YOU"?

UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE MEANS NOT HAVING TO BE POLITICALLY CORRECT ABOUT ANYTHING, AND NOT HAVING THE OBLIGATION TO CALL OR TO COME OVER BECAUSE IT IS EXPECTED OF YOU, BUT ONLY BECAUSE YOUR HEART WANTS TO DO IT.  NOT EXPECTING ANYTHING AND REJOYCE WHEN YOU DO GET IT.  FAMILY SHOULD BE LIKE ANGELS, WE DON'T GET TO SEE THEM MUCH SOMETIMES,  BUT WE ALWAYS KNOW THEY ARE THERE. UNFORTUNATELY NOT ALL OF US FEEL THIS WAY AND THIS IS WHERE ALL THESE GAMES AND TESTING COME IN.

NONE OF US ARE PERFECT, BUT WE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO WALK ON EGGSHELLS AROUND OUR FAMILY, ACCEPT EACH OTHER AS WE ARE WITHOUT POINTING FINGERS, ALWAYS JUST FOLLOWING THE STRINGS TO YOUR HEART.

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tuffn...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 9:46 AM What a great post. My best friend and I are like that as well. As far as family.......anyway. LOL

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Nonoluna
Feb. 1, 2008 at 9:47 AM You are so right!

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ElJaMom
Feb. 1, 2008 at 10:40 AM AMEN!

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hsiburt
Feb. 1, 2008 at 10:43 AM You hit the nail on the head with that one!!!  My best friend and I are so close and have been friends for so long we are family.  I love her dearly! 

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robin...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:16 AM You can pick your friends but not your family.

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angel...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 12:07 PM There are always those few that will play the game. We are lucky to have in our life those that know the real winners are those that don't feel the need to play. You are blessed to have such a friend.

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mema2be
Feb. 1, 2008 at 1:48 PM

Your post is so very true in so many ways. I have a best friend ( for 33 yrs now) that are alot like you and your friend. I can just think about her or tell someone something about her and the next thing I know is she is calling me just to talk. We have the sort of relationship that is open and honest. Most of the things that we know about each other, if we were to ever get mad at each other we could use as blackmail. lol She is the only one that I can talk to sometimes and the only one that has ever seem to have been there for me through thick and thin. My family is there but I can't always tell them everything that is going on in my life, even though I want to. I am the same with her as she is for me. NO GAMES PLAYED. Family sometimes playes games with your mind when all you really might need is a good friends ear. Thanks for the post, I know that I will be talking to my friend really soon now. lol

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10games
Feb. 3, 2008 at 9:03 PM This is cool.

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rainalea
Aug. 30, 2008 at 3:12 PM

So true. I hate mind games.

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