I hate to think Im already giving up on my 6 year old ever acting right. I dont know what to do anymore. I dont know where I went wrong. Hes just a good kid sometimes and such a terror also.  Yesterday he got detention for the 4th time this year. I was furious.  I sit here day after day and cry because I know everyone thinks I either just dont care enough to try to teach him right or I just let him be however he wants to be and its not true. Ive tried everything I know to get him acting right. Its to the point to where I really just cry now. and let my husband deal with it.  Im not sure how much more I can take. He makes his brothers life hell, hes stabbed a kid with a fork last year, detention four times now this year, he lies all the time, hes failing 1st grade, he hit his brother upside the head with a stick and left a huge scar. Hes just out of control. What the hell did I do wrong? My older son is polite, respectful, responsible, caring,all the things Tyler seems not to be.  But he has these beautiful moments that are just so sweet so I know that good is in him I just cant get it out of him 99% of the time.  Here is the worst thing I will ever say as a mother.. I see him coming home from the bus stop and I just get tense cause Im constantly worried about what he did at school that day. I cant even enjoy just seeing him walk home anymore..I just get tense and upset because I know something will happen now that he is home. I know thats horrible but Ive just gotten to the point to where I expect him to do something bad. Hes got a birthday coming up and Im considering not letthing him have a real party since he cant act right. I dont know if thats to extreme though. But I figure I pay alot for those parties and why  reward him for doing such bad things.  I cant keep doing this with him. Its draining me. It makes me hate myself cause I always thought I was a good loving mother and apparently Im not a good mother at all.

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gabri...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 9:31 AM Have you had him evaluated? It could be outside of his control.

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NannyB.
Feb. 1, 2008 at 9:32 AM There is a book entitled SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART  by Tripp.  I can't think of his first name right now.  It is an excellent book for dealing with children.  You can find it at any Christian bookstore.  I can tell you with almost certainty that his behavior is a cry for help.  I think this book might help you to determine what the problem is.  God bless!

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WestB...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 10:12 AM Thank you I will look for that book. I havent had him checked out yet, cause his teachers kept saying there is no need. He was in a school for special needs children because he had a speech delay due to a hearing problem.  I figure his teachers would know what to look for and they just say hes "over active" Its gotten to the point to where I am looking into doctors to take him to though. Something has gotta get answered.

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