I'm so upset I just need to vent. We went to the pediatrician today to check Aiden's ears again and he still has a double ear infection which I suspected because of the way he was grabbing at his ears and his eye started running again like when he had pink eye. So the ped. referred us to an ENT to look into getting tubes in Aiden's ears. I am just so upset cause it's one of those things where you think "not my child" and then here it is. I just don't want Aiden to have to go through this and it worried me even though everyone says its best for him. Still, when it's your baby who has to go under anesthesia it breaks your heart. You don't want to have to go through that. He means the world to me and I have always been horrible with hospitals and things of this nature because of everything bad that my mom had to go through when she was always in the hospital. I know this is different..but still...I hate hospitals and don't want him to have to go through this, but I don't think i reall have a choice. The dr. says that what he hears is like he is under water..so his speech will be delayed if we do nothing and I don't want that. To some I know it doesn't seem like a big deal but when it is your child it is. I know Amber (calebsmama) posted her concerns over her son having to get them and I know exactly how she feels. Until you have to do it...you have no idea how scary it can be to put your child into someone else's hands medically. I just wanted to cry when he told me that today. I feel like it's all I can think about. But I'm sure i'll get through it. We go to see the ENT next Wednesday and Aiden is on antibiotics until he has the tubes put in if thats what the ENT recommends which I have a feeling he will. I am just upset and feel alone because David (my husband) tends to not react to things right away and I don't think he's thinking about it until it actually happens, but it's all I can think about. Thanks for reading and any advice is appreciated!!

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caleb...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:47 AM My son is 18 months old, and he is getting ready for his 3rd set!  How old is Aiden?  Caleb was only 4 months old when he got his first set, then he had them again at 9 months along with his adenoids out.  He has outgrown that set and have fallen out.  It is such a scary thing to have your child in anesthesia, but the risks are slim.  He will be taken care of and will be in good hands.  He will feel so much bettter, and you will too! 

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yarnj...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:49 AM

Take a deep breath and relax.  It will be just fine.  My son got tubes when he was 9 months old, and it was really not a big deal.  Yes, they use general anaesthesia, and kids are a little disoriented when they wake up, but he never acted like he was in any pain.  Caleb was still breastfeeding at the time, and I nursed him as soon as he woke up.  They did his surgery first thing in the morning, and by evening that same day, he was like his usual self!

 The tubes stayed in place for a little over a year before dropping out, and he hasn't had ear infection problems since then (he is now 4).  One hidden bonus - if you ever fly with your son, his ears won't hurt on the plane, because the tubes allow the pressure to equalize. 

 Good luck with Aiden.  I'm sure he will do just fine.

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yarnj...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:49 AM How funny, both of us who responded have sons named Caleb!  Who would have guessed it would be so popular?

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caleb...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 1:31 PM

One more CALEB response. Ha ha.

Girl I'm right there with you. Caleb's surgery is Friday, Feb. 8th. I'm nervous but not to the point where I can't function (like I was with his first REAL surgery at 11 months). I know that tubes will be the best thing for him!! Same with Aiden...if they rec tubes, it's for the best. They NEVER tell you that you HAVE to get them. They wil give you the option, continue with infections and antibiotics or get tubes. My deciding factor was 1) the problems it probably has already caused with hearing & speech, 2) seeing my poor guy in pain all the time from infections, 3) the fact that at 18 months already two antibiotics don't help him!!! That's crazy, huh??

I know it's scary. Heck, the night before I found out Caleb had to get tubes I was telling another mommy it wasn't that big of a deal and to just calm down and relax. As soon as I got the news I flipped just like she was doing. You're right, it's no big deal until it's YOUR baby!! I promise you it will be alright. Just keep telling yourself this will end pain, problems hearing and being on tons of meds for him!!! It's a good thing. It won't hurt him, the anesthesia is light nothing hardcore, it won't hurt hearing (just HELP it) the tubes fall out when they're ready so there's no surgery to have them removed. It can only do GOOD THINGS!!!

Also, something to think about, not sure where you're going...I go to Dayton Head & Neck Surgeons in Centerville and see Dr. Dietz...I love them so much. Anyways, with him being so young I'm sure (just like with Caleb) bathtime is going to be a nightmare with earplugs. I am SO dreading the stupid earplugs. I'm taking Caleb to his doc on Monday and they're custom making ear plugs specifically for his ear. The exact shape. It's only gonna cost $55 and it'll be WELL worth the investment. I just wish I'd have called sooner that a week before his surgery...hope they're back by then!!!

Good luck and remember we can go through this together :)   (and hey, maybe the doc won't suggest tubes!! You never know!!!)

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yarnj...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 3:51 PM Oh yeah, I forgot about the speech delays because my Caleb was too little to talk when he got his tubes.  But my nephew (who actully isn't named Caleb ) didn't get his tubes until he was 15 months old, and he wasn't even babbling - you know, like da-da-da and ba-bee-bee kind of thing.  At 3 1/2 he is still a year behind in speech!  Those ear tubes can be a wonderful thing.

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caleb...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 10:29 AM

The ear plugs are a struggle getting in and staying in!  We got the custom made last year.  Needless to say, we didn't go to the pool much!

 

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caleb...
Feb. 4, 2008 at 9:25 PM Yeah I was going to tell you. We went today and she said Caleb was too young to sit/lay still and have them make the mold for his ears. She also said we'd be buying a LOT of earplugs for $65 a piece because he's so small and will be growing a lot in the next year. She said the easiest thing is just the putty type ear plugs. They sell them for $5 a pair but she sold me 2 for $5 cause she said Caleb was so darn cute...HA HA HA. Thought I'd share what I learned today. She had me practice putting the putty ones in right and he didn't like me pushing on his ear but he didn't touch them once they were in right. I def wouldn't waste your money....she even told me that straight up which I really appreciated!!

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kimbe...
Aug. 14, 2008 at 8:58 PM

I just read this! I have a special needs daughter- her ears have always been the biggest problem! She is now 22 and has had several sets of tubes! in fact we are( most likely) fixing to get another set. she is having another hearing test done the first week of sept. and then after that out ear spec. will do her surgery. she has a cyst right now behind one eardrum(which is why the infections is clearing up!. our ear doc gave her some ear plugs that are great - they are shaped like the inner part of the ear( no they didn't make them). and they work great!

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