I am sick and tired of being the only one who knows and understands what is going on!!!!!!!!

I feel like no one listens to me. My eleven year old has Asperger's Syndrome and my four year old has been dx'd with ADHD, but if you ask me I REALLY believe he is on the spectrum as well. I am the one who is home with them, I am the one who deals with them on a daily basis.....brush your teeth, leave your brother alone, talk nice, you may no take things without permission, go throw your tantrum in your bedroom, no you may not eat crap all day long, if you have homework you may not play games, you don't need to watch t.v. 24/7, you have to stay buckled in you seat, I will not buy you a toy EVERYTIME we leave the house.........I just wish I could have a "normal" day with my boys. I love them, I enjoy them, but lately I am so tired and so out of ideas. I have done it all, tried it all. My eleven year old's teacher called me yesterday talking about how my son really needs family support to help him get his projects done. All I could do was agree with her, because the more I try to explain, the more I sound like I am making excuses or being a martyr. Even my husband doesn't get it. The things I am being told to do for my boys to get through life would be fine if they were only children!!!! I am ONE person, I am not a specialist in anything, I do not have the professional training to teach children with neurobehavioral disorders, why am I being expected to do this all on my own!!!!! And the MEDS!!!!! There are so many....I can't keep up with them, but they are important. I spend all of my time exhausted and crying. Most days I just wish I had a different life, ya know, more money, more support, fewer kids..........then I feel guilty. Ihave to work outside the home now and the I am still expected to do everything. No body knows how awful my mornings are. By the time my eleven year old leaves for school I am so exhausted I just want to go to bed....and that is the begining of my day!!!!! All I want is some help, someone to believe me,I want someone to make a defference. This battle is too much to fight on my own!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 10:01 PM I totally agree!  Hang in there!  There's not much else we can do...

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 10:45 AM I feel the same way. The last two days have been hell for me and I dont know what to do anymore either. I sometimes ask myself if I am cut out for this job, and if they would be happier with someone else. I dont know, what is the worst is when doctors do not listen, just drug them some more, thats what they think will help when it has only mad my daughter worse with her behaviour, sometimes to the point I want to open the front door and toss her out cause I just cant take it anymore and there is no support or help from anyone in my area, so I know how stressful it can get at times. Keep your chin up, I think it has too get better sooner or later, I am hoping anyway

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:26 PM

Not sure this helps....but I only have one kid with a disability ... and um.. our house really is no different. I don't know what a "normal" day is....of course I have 4 boys full time... I don't think thats "normal"...

I think its easier for Jack because he is a man...and they are boys.. if that doesn't sound too sexist.. but it is far from easy for him either.

Yeah...this is so not helpful eh? What can I say....yeah...its hell...

Just think about in 10+ years....the kids are out..or almost all out.. they come home for Thanksgiving dinner..bring their friends or partnres/spouses ... it will be worth it!

Hubby though....yeah..maybe he needs to help more.

SHIT! I know I do!!!! I'm trying....I still suck though.

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