Today my department received the following email from our supervisor:

    As a supervisor and an adult, I find it strange to have to send this email, but here it is:  Starting immediately, the group needs to keep discussions of personal subjects to a minimum.  There have been complaints of people hearing too many stories or being told about personal events going on in people's lives that they don't want to hear.  While I understand that people may not want to hear about these things, I don't understand why you can't talk to each other and express how you feel.  If someone asks you about a subject, it is up to you to decide if you want to participate in that conversation, but please don't pro-actively seek to start discussions about personal issues with others.  I include myself in this group and will no longer discuss such things as well, unless asked.  There is no rule on the books that says you have to like all of your co-workers, but you do have to work with them.  Hopefully this change in seating and the limiting of discussion of personal issues will finally allow this group to come together, instead of it feeling like 6 individuals.  Thank you.

I was told by my supervisor off the record (we are relatively close) that I was one of the people specifically mentioned by the person that complained.  I also was told by someone else who complained, but I would have had it narrowed down to being one of two people anyway.  My complaint is that I do not go out of my way to talk to that person, as we don't have much in common.  That person sits a good distance away from me, so it is truly a matter of going out of ones way for us to have a personal conversation.  This person however does go out of their way to talk to me.  Asking me things like "How are you feeling?  Still having morning sickness?" or to simply just gossip about whatever.  They go out of their way to talk to me, yet they complain that I tell them too much about my personal life?  If you don't wan't to know if I am still nauseated, simply do not ask!!!  This is not the first time this same person has caused such an email to be sent out.  About six months ago we were sent an email telling us we are no longer allowed to listed to music at our desks as it bothers other people.  This person rather than saying "Hey, can you turn it down?" to the person behind them instead, they created a big group issue over it.  There are only 6 of us and we still can't act like adults?

If you don't want to hear that I am sick, don't ask.  If you don't want to know what I am doing over the weekend, don't ask.  If you don't like hearing about my personal life DON'T ASK! 

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Mar. 26, 2009 at 12:58 AM

Pretty hypocritical if you ask me! I hope things'll get better for ya.

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