This is personal.

So this happened over 25 yrs ago. I pushed it out of my mind and just never thought about it. 5 yrs ago my sister takes me out to eat. I am sitting there have a good time and then she brings up what happened to us when we were little. She started crying and I did my best to be strong for both of us.

Since then I haven't been able to get the memories out of my head. She has confronted our Mom about it and all she said was it is too late now because it happened so long ago.

I want to go to my brother and confront him. My sister is worried about my Dad finding out. I am sick of this secret. We didn't do anything wrong so why is she so scared?

She is going to talk to me later today about it. I think if we confront him and everyone knows it will make it much easier to deal with. But it could also make things worse.

What would you do?

My brother sexually abuse my sister and I. Most of the time we were both in the room when he was doing this. I remember him doing it to her and she remembers him doing it to me. Everyday I remember more and I am so mad at myself for never saying anything to anyone. I want to talk but my sister is scared to.

Should my brother be confronted? Am I wrong for wanting everyone to know?

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 1:20 PM Do what is in your heart and what is right for you!  That is the only thing you need to do....if your sister does not want to do this then that is what is in her heart - be strong and do what you need to do for yourself.  Now that you have recognized the violence againest you there is no turning back and the only way to make peace with yourself is to follow what your heart is telling you to do.  If the people in your life love you then they will see this is what you had to do and it is their job to deal with their emotions - it is time for you to take control and take care of you....good luck and I am sorry you had to go through this....please follow your heart (remember God is inside!)

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 1:29 PM I think I would have to tell everyone.  It's not right to keep it bottled up inside forever.  It's an uncomfortable thing to talk about of course, but I think it's the only true way for you both to heal from this.  Be strong and I wish you peace soon!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 1:30 PM I agree with rmmom801.  You need to do what will be best for you and you know what that is in your heart.  The only way you can heal is to acknowledge and move forward.  I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this.  Be strong and do for you!  If it was me I would most definitely bring it out.  It may be the hardest thing you do but once it is out then healing can occur.  Best of Luck to you. ~Hugs~

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:44 PM I agree with the other posts. Im sorry you had to do go through that. I would say something and let healing begin. Follow what your heart is telling you. Your mom says that it was a long time ago because she is not wanting to face it, but you are ready, I think. If you ever need to talk just send me a message and I will be ear to listen. TC.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:51 PM i think if your ready to tell then do so. you would have to feel so much relief to get that off your chest. i'm sorry that happened to the both of you. i'd want to get it out so he couldn't do it to someone elese. i wish you a lot of luck in what ever descion you make.

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