HEY GIRLS! SO I'M DETERMINED TO MOTIVATE AND IF I HAVE TO MANIPULATE MY HUSBAND IN SEARCHING FOR WORK OUT OF THIS HORRID LITTLE CITY. HE'S BEEN LOOKING FOR OVER A YEAR NOW W/ BARELY ANY RESPONSES AND I'M JUST FED UP. I WAS HOME OVER THIS LAST WEEKEND FOR A VISIT W/ MY FOLKS IN WESTERN WISCONSIN RIGHT BY THE TWIN CITIES ,AND MY DAD WAS SHOWING ME ON CRAIGS LIST ALL THE JOBS IN ROBERT'S FIELD THAT ARE AVAILABLE. TONS OF THEM!!!! IT WAS CRAZY TO SUCH ABUNDANCE OF OPPORTUNITY!! SO YESTERDAY I'M HOME AGAIN AND I WENT ON CRAIGS LIST AND E-MAILED BOB AT LEAST 7 JOB LISTINGS IN THE CITIES JUST FROM THAT DAY AND THE DAY BEFORE. WHEN WE HAD DINNER WE HAD A LITTLE DISCUSSION ABOUT IT. HE THINKS I'M ANGLING TO GET NEAR MY FAMILY AND I AM, BUT I'M ALSO WANTING BADLY FOR HIM TO FIND WORK IN THE FEILD HE ENJOYS, I WANT OUT OF CITY LIFE, I WANT A GOOD SCHOOL SYSTEM TO SEND MY GIRL TO, I WANT A BIGGER HOUSE THAT WE CAN ACTUALLY AFFORD SO WE CAN HAVE A SECOND KID, AND I WANT TO BE NEAR MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS SO I FEEL I HAVE SUPPORT IN MY LIFE OUTSIDE OF ROBERT. HONESTLY MY LIFE REVOLVES AROUND BOB NOW AND I'M NOT GETTING SUPPORT ENOUGH FROM HIM IN SO MANY WAYS IT'S JUST KILLING  ME. I NEED A CHANGE!!!

THOUGHTS? IDEAS? DISCUSS AMOUNG YOURSELVES AND GET BACK TO ME! :) 

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ckdmom
Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:49 PM

I think that taking a job is really personal decision between a husband and wife.  Because we do not know all of the details, it is hard to make a fair judgement.  At the same time, if you both have the same goals in life (no more city, more kids, bigger house) then I think your idea definitly has merit and he needs to consider your feelings.  Do you have a job?  Does he feel like you want him to take this job simply so you can get closer to your family?  What about his family?  These are all things that would definitely have an affect on your next move in this search.  

I guess that overall, if he does not want a new job, there is probably not a lot you can do.  Sorry if that is not what you want to hear, but we have had some friends who are out of work and if they are not willing to make a change, no one else can do that for them.

Good Luck!

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HotMo...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:37 PM

OK SO CKDMOM GOT THE LOW DOWN! HA HA!! SORRY FOR THE NOVEL! ;) IF ANY OF YOU NEED MORE DETAILS AS WELL BEFORE DISPENSING PEARLS OF WISDOM LET ME KNOW! I REALLY WANT AS MUCH INPUT AS I CAN GET! :)

THANKS TO CKDMOM FOR HER INPUT!! YOU ROCK!!! 

CIO!!! 

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TJsMo...
Feb. 7, 2008 at 6:06 PM

My husband works in a job where he is gone all the time and my son and I were down in Tenn. by ourselves.  I even started looking for jobs so that he could be at home with us.  But that wasn't something he wanted to do at that time.  So I opted to move back to California so that I could be closer to him.  To make a long story short and to answer your question, it might have to be something he has to want do on his own.  It seems that the more you push the less likely he is going to be willing to make that change.  This is a really hard one.  But it is one that you are going to have to plan out together and come to an agreement. 

Also I just found a job after looking for 6 months.  It will take time to find a new one, and if y'all live too far from the job you might now receive any feedback.

 You might want to try an agency and see if they can locate something for him.  Sometimes they have the inside track to jobs that are not posted.  He may even have to review his resume and make sure that it fits the specific jobs he is applying for. 

There are also a lot of helpful tips on monster and career-builder on relocating.

 I wish you and you family luck.  I hope I was helpful.

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