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Katie's Own Little Bubble

I am beginning to think, that I am a bad stepmom.  I hate my stepson.  I can't sugar coat it.  He lies all the time, he steals from us and my mother.  He loses everything.  He neglects his dog, she is a sweet golden retreiver, and she does not deserve the way he treats her.  He talks to me like I am the dumbest person on earth.  He treats his 6 year old brother with autism like a piece of shit.  He has slapped his 2 year old sister.  He is hateful and selfish. He is completely convinced that the world should revolve around him.  His mother walked out on him over 8 years ago.  She is a vindictive bitch.  She gives him everything he wants.  He sees her twice a year.  But he worships the ground she walks on.  I am to the point that I no longer want to make the effort.  I just want him to leave.  He is destroying our marriage.  How can an 11 year old be such an asshole?

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 1:54 PM

OH Katie!!!!    I hear ya!!!!        All I can say is,, I hear ya,, although my step kids are older,, I FEEL FOR YOU AND MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU!   Get that kid in counseling!!!    You kind of feel damned if you do and damned if you don't right???  Where is your husband in all this,,, mine is a jerk,, so I know the aloneness you feel.....

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 1:55 PM OH,, AND P.S.    YOU ARE NOT A BAD STEP MOM    Your feelings are righteous!  Don't beat yourself up!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 2:15 PM Maybe he worships his mom because he never see's her. He is building up in his head what he remembers and what he thinks she is like. That is a hard thing to deal with. But I know what your saying. And your not a bad stepmom. Just keep trying,one day he will understand it all. I hated my step Dad. I was 18 & moved out before I understood everything he did for me. I was 20 when I finally called him "Dad" he was there since I was 4! Also at 11 years old, pre-teen hormons. Just a thought. Some boys start earlyer. Maybe get him in counseling for his anger? Good luck!!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 3:02 PM You are NOT a bad step mom, because if you are, so am I!! I am facing the same problems the lying being the biggest issue. My ss is vindictive and hatefull. He choked my 6 yr old 2 weeks ago. He is constantly slapping or hitting one or both of my girls. At 12 years old he is breaking up a marriage that I had hoped would be my last! We are in the same boat, I can only hope you understand that you are NOT alone, by any means!

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