well i fanally heard from the dhs lady and all she said is she has to talk to sooner start and childrens first its like what the fuck she told my friend all i had to do was clean the house take parenting classes and go to church but she wont tell me shit she said she will call back tusday its already been a week sence i lost my lil girl i want her back home now

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asmit...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 3:52 PM Holy crap! In TX they drag their feet.  Push that lawyer and hopefully they'll throw the case out soon!

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lucif...
Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:50 PM ya because im getting tired of it i want her home now

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SchweetT
Feb. 2, 2008 at 11:27 AM From your first two posts about DHS, I didn't realize that they had actually removed your daughter from the home. I can only imagine how awful you must feel. I'm very sorry. As a foster parent I (in the Tulsa area even!), I work with them often so here's some advice, even though you didn't specifically ask me for it- LOL! Anyway, whatever they tell you that you need to do to get your baby back, please just do it. Don't be so angry at them for removing your little girl from the home that you don't "play their game." That will only make things worse and cause your daughter to be in foster care longer. (I'm assuming she's in foster care.) And I realize you're not a Christian and all, but if they tell you that you need to go to church, then just freakin' go.....whatever it takes! I'm not totally understanding WHY they're saying you have to go to church (we don't go on a regular basis and we are very well-respected in the foster care world and are even adopting our 3yo foster son. Weird that they are making that an issue with you, but if it gets your daughter home quicker- well, just do it and then worry about filing a discrimination suit or whatever AFTER she's back home with you!) If your caseworker doesn't return your calls quickly then call her supervisor. You have to be persistent, I've learned. And just for the record, the caseworker you are now dealing with IS NOT the person who made the decision to remove your little girl so don't show "attitude" toward her! There is a whole other area of the system who actually investigates the abuse/neglect claims and THEY make the determination to remove or not remove the child(ren). The job of the caseworker you are currently working with is to decide the course of action you should follow to reunify you and your daughter. What I mean by all that is TRY TO WORK WITH HER!!!!! Have you heard the old saying that you can catch more flys with honey than with vinegar (or something like that!)? Anyway. Don't make her dislike you. That won't help at all!!!!! You need her to work WITH you. That make sense? And, on another note, if your daughter is now in a foster home......those foster parents ARE NOT your enemy! I know everyone has heard horror stories of these terrible foster homes- and I know they're out there somewhere!- BUT I can honsetly say that I do not know personally of ANY bad homes. Most foster parents really want to just offer the child(ren) a safe, loving, and comfortable place to stay while the family goes through some crisis. Use the time while your little girl is out of the home to go above and beyond what DHS is asking of you!!!!!! And good luck in all of this. I hope you don't find this post to be critical cause I'm honestly only trying to offer some useful info to help you get your family back together as quickly as possible! If you wanna ask any questions or whatever, feel free to PM me!

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lucif...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 2:37 PM i have been very nice to the lady im just mostly angry with she told my friend one thing then told me something else that was different and ive said this before my husband is the one that got the lawyer not me and he told me he will do the suit after she is home i don't think you understood what i was saying

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SchweetT
Feb. 2, 2008 at 5:07 PM

OOPS! I guess I must have not responded clearly- sorry. I meant OF COURSE you're angry- who wouldn't be, right? I was just suggesting no matter how angry you may be- just pretend NOT to be, is all. And I don't blame you or your hubby one bit for being upset about what you might see as discrimination. I'm glad you guys had already considered waiting until AFTER your daughter gets home before making an issue of it. Again- sorry. I was trying to be helpful and must have come off sounding judgemental. Didn't mean to be at all.

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lucif...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 5:36 PM i know you was being helpful and i do thank you

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