Never thought I would say this but I am alone,but not lonely.I made a decision after breaking up with someone almost a year ago to stop the maddness and just be with me.It is not that I never want to be in a relationship again,because I do.I am very relationship oriented.However,when the time feels right to me,or someone unexpectedly comes into my life.I want to come from a position of strength instead of weakness. What does that mean. I want to have worked on myself and know that I am the best woman possible I can be,first for myself and then for anyone who meets me.I want to strong enough as an individual who is not motivated by loneliness to be with someone,but am attracted to that person because we can enhance each other lives and not be each others lives. I want to be strong enough not to lose who I am,and give up those things that are important to me,just to be with someone else. So,I am busy now,and have been setting goals and direction in my life,that are important to me.  I will know when I have met the right person when I am able to mesh my life comfortably with theirs,no more trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Another thing is I am looking for my future partner to be my best friend first. I look back and see one of my biggest mistakes was not in being friends first long enough.So, I like the space I am in now,learning to love myself more and being my own best friend.Afterall,if I do not really love myself enough first,then how can I expect anybody else to fully embrace me ?  So, that is what I am doing right now,learning to love me more and more each day.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 3:58 PM That is the way to do it.  I wish I had done that before I married my first husband.  Dumb as I was I let (LOVE) rule instead of listening to my mom and my head.....I wouldn't give it back though I have learned so much from it... WHAT NOT TO DO!!!!!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 3:58 PM you said it all

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 9:43 AM You are a wonderful person and I agree with everything you said. I found my soulmate Darryl almost 3 years ago when I had basically given up on ever finding anyone- let alone the person I had been meant to meet my whole life. He is not only my lover, but he is my best friend and confidant. He is amazing and he virtually came out from nowhere when I least expected it. I hope you continue to do what you are doing and I am sure the right one will come along- someone who deserves you - and you deserve someone special- take care- Kim

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 1:14 PM

Thanks to each and everyone of you for stopping by,giving approval and giving warm words of encourgagement.

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Feb. 28, 2008 at 5:39 PM

Hi...I think you and I are in the same cloud.  I also need to love me for who I am...I just got out of a relationship that I wanted to work out but Like you said before loving anyone  you have to find yourself and love yourself order to love back.....Only time will tell and help all the healing process.  You will find  that one  true love one day....

Take care and God bless....

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