I have just gotten done reading and voting on a journal post. It was about porn being watched and/or downloaded in the home.

These are my views about the husband/SO watching porn. Being it on the computer, the television or in an adult theater....

Yes, I do watch porn flicks with my husband. I am not one to be afraid to admit to this. Do I feel that it is wrong? No. It is something that both me and my husband enjoy. It actually enhances our sex life.

In all honesty, I would rather see my husband watch pornography. It is better than him going out and finding another woman and boinking her. Then, come home looking for some. The next thing I know, he has passed an STD on to me.

Watching pornography is NOT cheating on you. It is filling his needs. Especially if you are really not in the mood at that particular time. Porn gives him another avenue to fill his sexual desire. They do not just flip the switch to the "off" position like we can. It is not in the male's make up.

If you are not in to watching pornography with your man, then by all means, don't. It is not for everyone. Male or female.

For me, watching porn helps to get me more in to the mood. And it enhances my arousal. When it is time for intercourse, I am more in to it than I would have been before watching an adult movie.

Believe me, I would rather see my other half watching sex on the television. Because, the other possibility and it's after affects are far worse than what is being done on the screen.

Now, of course, I would never allow him or us together...Hell even by myself to watch adult content while my kids are around (AKA awake or in the same room). MOST of us that do have kids and watch adult movies do have the common sense to watch it "after hours". In other words, while the kiddies are deep in to dream land.


As I should have added in the post in the first place...

If you or your SO/husband have had or CURRENTLY has an addiction to pronography, then no, I would not see having it in the home.

There is a comment by me in # 7 and in # 20 that I would NOT have porn in my home if one of us or both of us had an addiction.

If there are warning signs leading to an addiction to pornography, then by all means have removed or do not let it in to the home.

This post was not meant to be judgemental in any way shape or form. As many who know me here on this site, I am not one to judge you based on any reason. Unless you have killed someone or have hurt a child.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:26 PM Well, you're not going to get any argument from me. I totally agree with you. Especially the part about how it's NOT cheating. I mean, my ex did both. And frankly, the two aren't even in the same realm.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:27 PM

    Everything in moderation. I think it can be a tool, like you stated, but it could give the man false expectations. I think that some of the movies are way off of reality, but some are romantic and are good for people to keep it fresh. Gr8 post! Happy Groundhog Day!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:28 PM same here I agree. Me and hubby watch it together, and I am sure he watches it alone too. And no it is not cheating unless he shags Jenna! And in that case I would applaude him! LMAO

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:28 PM

Preach on sista!  I agree the thing that gets me is when your DH tries to hide the fact that they like porn.  My husband joined a few sites and didn't tell me thinking I'd be mad.  We are all sexual beings, people need/want different things to make things more interesting.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:35 PM

To each his own I always have believed.  I don't care what you do in your bedroom and I don't want your opinions in mine... Good post.


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Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:37 PM I agree with you.  In moderation it can be a good thing for both people.  Personally it is not my thing but I don't see a problem if couples do it or men do it. As long as it is not a obsession. Some men taken it to far.  But other than that I think it is actually pretty healthy.  If my husband was not a complete hornball I would be concerned. LOL

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 4:48 PM

Exactly!! Moderation is key. If he was watching constantly and acting like he wants the porn more than the partner in real life, then yes be worried.

But, if he/she/both of you watch it here and there, then there should be no reason to worry or be angered about watching pornography.

We are all sexual human beings. Sometimes, for one person or both within the relationship, seeing an adult movie will enhance the sexual, REAL LIFE experience.

I personally have caught my hubby "jacking off" to a movie or even a PlayBoy" magazine. Was I mad? No. I knew I did not want it. So, he took care of the need himself.

Yes, he has masturbated in front of me. Was I offended? No. It shows that he has trust, respect and wants to have me see him happy. Not just go off in a corner and be "by himself". Oh, and I have also masturbated in front of him as well.

As long as you have an open and honest communication in your relationship, then watching or reading porn should not be a problem.

Only when there are signs of obssession should a red flag go up.


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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:19 PM

I think you have a very healthy idea of what sex is and what it should be.  I like to think I have too.  I hope we're all able to talk openly with our children about this (eventually!) so they are better in touch with their own desires.   When we shame adults or children for expressing themselves sexually, they get an unhealthy idea about it as a whole. 

(Oh, lordy.  I just reread what I wrote.  Sorry about the puns.  They weren't intentional!!  LOL)

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:20 PM I read your controversial post. i realy have no opinion about other people's opinions.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:31 PM

I have no problem with porn.   It's a personal thing, so I say live & let live.

I'm still very wary of it though......my first husband had a huge porn addiction and was quite careless with his "stuff".    More than once his tapes got mixed in with the family ones & the kids mistakenly put in one of his movies.  He spent so much money feeding his addiction that we were in bad straights for a while.  He was too weak & let it ruin us & our family.     My man is very understanding & he's helping me see that it can be fun.

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