Dear Mrs. Gr,

I am concerned with a few things that "A" has said to me (in regards to her progress and class room activities). Lately she has been coming home telling me  how she has helped "so and so" with their classroom assignments. While I believe this offers an excellent lesson in helpful/kind etiquette, I find after further talk that it is also giving her the impression that it is ok to do others class work. Unfortunately I have been unsuccessful in explaining that doing the work for other students is not helpful. It seems that no matter how I say it to her her feelings get hurt and she thinks I am attacking her for trying to help. I don't want her to feel this way but I also do not want her to think it is ok to do other students work. Perhaps it is best she does not help the other students w/ assignments as I'm not sure she understands what "help" in this situation means. Or maybe you could have better luck explaining the difference, either way I feel as something should be done. Also it seems that lately she is unwilling to try new things (academically). I can't help but feel it's because she is stagnate and mostly doing things she already has a strong understanding of. I have been adding home assignments to her homework since it generally only takes her 5-15min a day to complete what she is sent home with. This as well as the completed class work sent home is my basis for assuming she is stagnant. I am hoping that there is a way to incorporate more adequate assignments to her curriculum, or perhaps there are other school programs she can participate in to help nurture her academic abilities.

Thank You


Mrs G,

I have a few academic concerns I would like to discuss with you personally. I would like to schedule a meeting with you at your convenience.

Thank You

( I don't want to come off to aggressive or attacking, I don't know if it would be better to speak to her in person or through letters. What do you all think?)

thanks for the input

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:00 PM I think talking these things out personally usually yields better results than a letter. I hope you get things worked out!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:00 PM letter #2...

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:02 PM Though I think you note sounds fine, I know that it is very difficult to interpret a person reaction in print. Just like on this site, sometimes a person can take the written word and misinterpret the intentions. I know at my sons school they welcome conferences. It may come over better face to face so you can be read correctly and you can read the teacher's reaction.  Just a suggestion.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:04 PM Letter 2 for sure!!! 

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:04 PM

the letter may make you come off as a coward....meaning that you can say it in the letter but are you willing to speak up to her in person? Please don't take what I have said as me being a b*tch, or that I am being rude. I am saying this because person to person is less likely to be taken the wrong way. leaving room for errors on either end. If you do meet face to face with the teacher make sure you make it a 3 way. include the principal on the meeting. It will really help.

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 3:45 PM I would go with letter #2 ,and then discuss all of letter #1 at the meeting.

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