Ok so I get Jeff to go to the doctors after he has refused for sooooo long. He hates them he has been through so much in the last 8 years with them it is crazy. for those of you who do not know Jeff was stabbed 5 times about 8 years ago. By someone in the Navy. it punctured his lung, liver and diaphragm. He has had 2 surgery's on his stomach to repair hernias that are caused from them cutting him open from his chest down to his hair line! He has PTDS for it and well is just not the same. they kicked him out of the Navy and that is all that he wanted to do. and after he was to be a firefighter but it was all taken. Anyways

After 6 years of the VA telling us that they can not do anything for him they finally ordered a Cat scan. Well today we found out that he needs surgery. And I mean NEEDS IT!!!! His bolus and a great sum of his large and small intestines are trapped in a hernia that was to big for the doctor to even find the hole of where it starts and where it ends. It is the size of a football!   He will not talk about it and all I want to do is talk about it. I am very scared he is over weight and the last time he had a hard time waking up after it. I just hope that it helps and that he can regain his life back. he can not so so much with the kids I just pray he will be able to be the Dad he wants to be!!! 

OK I think I am done now ... thanks for listening!!!!


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Feb. 1, 2008 at 6:32 PM

oh Shannon!!! ((((HUGS)))) I know its not good news, but I am so glad that you made him go. At least now there can be a plan in place to fix it!!!

 You guys will be in my thoughts!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 6:53 PM Try and get him to talk. Poor thing! I will be praying for you that he will have the surgery and recover fully. that sucks! Why are men so stubborn when it comes to the doctors or hospitals? I am here if you need to talk. You have to play the father card. He will see that he wants to be there for his kids especially having a son. Hope he listens to you.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 7:35 PM I'm sorry you're both having to go through this.  I know you're scared and I'm sure he is, too.  Which is why he may not want to talk about it.  Maybe try and tell him that it might help to get things off his chest.  If you need anything you that I'm here.  Keep me posted and I'll be praying for you both.  Love you.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 8:06 PM

Shannon!!!!!  I am here for you to talk to.  Call me anytime, I am sorry your family has to go through all of this! 

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 12:43 AM Hey girl...sorry to hear that.  You whole family will be in my prayers.  If you need to talk, I'm just down the street.  Give him time...and I agree with Christina...play the father card...and the fact that baby #4 is on the way!

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Feb. 4, 2008 at 11:56 AM Thank you guys.....

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Feb. 4, 2008 at 1:33 PM

I know what it's like trying to get your hubby to do the right thing when it comes to this kind of stuff! I had the same problem with ryen about his heart and blood pressure! Sorry Babe! I know it's tough!

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