okay so everyone knows my ex is a wothless piece of shit n e way. i got a text about two yesterday and it was from my ex. he wants to knoe if he can sign over his rights to our almost three year old.!!!!  mind you he only takes him once a month, he left me at 5 months pregnant, then got with a girl who had a kid and had another baby with her.    what the hell is wrong with people. he takes him around the beginning of the month and then the next time it time to go his family is sick or he is going to b out of town..  i am so mad but happy i dont even know really what i feel. he didnt start seeing him until he was almost one and i tookl his ass to court for child support. that is the only reason he soesnt want any thing to do with his only son.  why???????  i dont understand.   my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years and he wants to adopt him and i would kie that too.    my son already calls him daddy and everything . but that not the point my ex is taking the easy way out and i know i have the choice but hell i dont know whats best either..   i personnally think b 4 my son gets attatched i should just do it and make him pay for the adoption but i dont know      what would any of you do somebody please give me some advice. or let me know if any of you have been threw this dumb p***y way out shit... sorry but i really need to vent and i kow some one will give me some advice.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:28 PM

I personally think you should just forget about the loser, ya, I know he's the kids daddy, but you can'y make him do the right thing and if you have a decent man who wants to be a real daddy to them, and if you truely love this man, you should stick with him, and leave the other one alone. Maybe he has issues to deal with, but he sounds like a pain in the ass and maybe better not to get involved in all of his B S. He'll only cause you heartbreak and be a hassle to deal with. Anyway, that's my 2 cents worth! Good luck,


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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:34 PM If he wants to sign over his rights then by all means...go ahead!!! There is a difference from being the father and being the dad. And in ur case "sperm donor"  I myself had one of those. He wasn't there for me or my 1st. My Paige didn't have a daddy in my eyes, so I didn't list a father on the birth certificate. I have a wonderful husband and I know that if Paige would have survived then he would have adopted her in a heartbeat and would love her like she was his own. So, my advice is...your boyfriend has been there. He's DADDY. Now do you want your ex to pay for the adoption??? I would just cut my losses and move on with my life. Good-Luck!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 5:53 PM

get rid of him! Your son knows your boyfriend as daddy so let him be his daddy! good luck keep me posted HUGS

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Feb. 4, 2008 at 2:09 PM thanks guys!!!!!! i will let you know what i decide!!!!!

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